Increase sex drive?

Find a babysitter, take her out for a nice dinner, or just cook her a good dinner at home. This happens with women who have kids, tell her how beautiful she is, Hormones get all crazy. try porn. Try a prescription!

Your wife sex drive is probably gone because of the kids. At first your relationship was on and popping because you guys didn't have as many responsibility as you do now. Your wife probably thinks about the the dirty laundry, the dirty kitchen, and or those dirty diapers that she has to change. She just have a lot of things on her mind. Bring her some flowers and try to help her around the house. Find a babysitter for a weekend and go out. Do something that you normally don't do. Go on a date every two weeks. Good Luck.

I feel like I could write a book on this! The quanity of time and effort it takes to maintain a house and kids is overwhelming. If she is working it is that much more difficult. As her husband, you probably "try and help" you probably even think you are doing a lot. She still is taking on more responsibility than she can handle and still see to your "needs" also. Her needs are things like sleep, foot rub, long bath, quiet dinner, and knowing that when she gets these things, the price is not sex. When we finally got around to sex, my husband wanted to make it so special - it went on and on and on. If I wanted that much more exercise I would have run around the block. Kids take over a mother's body from the time they are conceived. Sex equals babies, sex equals work, sex equals loss of sleep - it's amazing that mothers ever want to have sex. There is much you can do to help. Give her space. Really be an equal partner in housework, errands, child care, don't be the third child that pouts when you don't get your way. Don't make plans for fishing for you if she's carried the burden all week. We don't just lose our sex drive - it is ripped out of us by plain and pure WORK. Being a mom and a housewife and often a career person bringing in 1/2 the income - I have never worked so hard in my life.

Hopefully you get my message here as I could go on and on......you get my drift.

It really depends on the person. Physiologically there are reasons why women can get aroused more easily during pregnancy (blood flow to the pelvis, hightened emotional state making them get "turned on" mentally as well as physically, etc.) but some women have a very difficult time with being pregnant and being sick kills the mood or makes it seem like too much effort. As for the guy it's the same, some are too freaked out by the fact that his partner is carrying a child and doesn't want to hurt her, others are just excited that her being pregnant is new and different and wants to explore that.

I had the same thing happen to me after I had my son and it took a long time to get it back. How is she feeling about her body? Things change body-wise after having kids... though it won't cure the problem, a good first step is to be sure to make her feel beautiful. Also, help out around the house as much as possible, which you may be doing already. The less tired she is, the more apt she will be to want to get busy between the sheets. If she's on birth control pills she might also want to talk to her doctor about changing her prescription... that can affect her hormone levels. Best of luck!

it happens with women who have kids....not sure why but it does suck!

y'all have 2 kids, she's tired, it's hard for her to get time with you alone or just time for herself! Find a babysitter, (one u trust) take her out for a nice dinner, or just cook her a good candle lit dinner at home, turn on some soft music dance with her tell her how beautiful she is, then the rest should fall into place!

Tell her not to worry or be stressed over it! Hormones r all crazy and stuff, it's only been a year since ur last child!!!!

If that doesnt work dont wanna sound rude here, but porn always worked for me and my hubby, lol....

Well hope all works out for ya!

have a good day

try to spend more one on one without the kids and not expecting sex. Sometimes woman need to feel loved for more then sex. (Not saying you make her feel that way) Maybe be more romantic light some candles what not. Is she to tired by the end of the day cause of the kids and what not? Maybe send the kids to a babysitter and run a hot bath for her.....you can figure out the rest....lol

Generally, women who have had kids. Get issues about feeling sexy. (or confident).Their minds are on the kids and everything that comes with parenthood.I myself have noticed a slide in sex drive with myself , just because of outside pressures. Its like I can't stop focusing on work,kids , chors,bills,etc. I think the key is getting away some place quite and romancing her, make her feel sexy. Plus if she worked out that makes you feel confident. Our self esteems are based on accomplishment, maybe if she feels accomplished you will see a change. Just a thought.

is she nursing,tired,ok lets say exhausted,needs help with 2 little kids no doubt.Maybe if you guys can get some time alone,she can get some real sleep,cuddles and massages.Children take a lot of energy,stress is peaked,she may even be depressed from stress,post par tum.Be patient,be helpful with the chores and childcare,she will appreciate and know you love her,this is soo normal it's a given.Things will get better,takes this kind of effort though to make it sooner.Good luck!

It is more than likely because your lives have changed after the kids. There is not allot you can do except maybe ease dome of her stress. Help out around the house, take care of the kids and give her time to rest. Hope it works out, it did for me.