How do you keep your marriage alive after having a baby?

Remember the reasons you were together before baby. Also make sure you make time for the two of you. That is a big one.

Even little things like a note on the mirror in the morning or taped to the steering wheel of his car.

Just try to work little things in here and there and plan at least a once a month date night maybe working up to a once a week as your baby gets older.

With the first one, it takes some work. Once you have your first baby your both so focused on your new bundle of joy it is easy to neglect your spouse. Some times you need to stay up an hour earlier or get up and hour earlier jsut so you can have some time w/ just the 2 of you especially in the first couple of months, but after that things start falling back into place. The fun time is when you have your second. Then you got to take your quickies when you can get them, and the talking can be done over dinner lol.

You said that this was your third child, but the first with this gentleman. Is this his first child? If it is and the little one is still a few months old then he may be having the whole mother/lover conflict. This is common with first time dads where they start to see their wife's as the mother of their children and not as their lover. Plus he has to share you with another person now. As the little one gets older and you two get more on a regular routine with the baby and each other he should start to see you as his lover again. Just give him some time to adjust and hopefully it will be back to normal before you know it.

Take joy in being parents and marvel at the new person you created together. Then, put the baby to sleep in his/her own bed and take joy in each other and the love you share.

Always remember that you have created a child together, but that you are also still man and woman. You have the responsibility to the child and each other to make couple time to provide a happy home.

And a sense of humor definately helps...there will be a lot of times you will have to either laugh or cry, take laughter.

When you ahve a kid things changem the relationship changes, but not necessarily for the worse - just realise the focus is now not on you or him, but on the child, and that way you can grow together with this child and keep the relationship.

Well Sweetie, If nothing has changed except the birth of your new "bundle of joy." Maybe he is just a bit jealous, is this his

1st child? If so, maybe that's it. He might feel that the child is getting all the attention. That sounds awful shallow, but ya never know. Try to have a heart to heart, maybe that will shake his cage. It just seems like you and he would be closer,

instead of driftin' apart? I wish ya the very best, hope he wakes-up. Have a GREAT WEEK-END! Say Yeah, RIGHT?

lol.......... All the Best to You................

Some people can't, I suppose. But remember how you kept things alive before the baby? Continue to do some of those sweet things.

Don't stop dating and go out even though you may have to get one of the grandparents to baby sit and keep doing little nice things for each other. Cheers and good luck

Our relationship got closer and more special after we had a child! It's all in realizing the baby needs wonderful, happy parents!

you have to affirm each other with compliments,spend quality time with each other,help each other around the house with chores,give each other gifts,communicate with each other that means listening,and try keep the sex alive.