When i went to school, i was a serious loner...?

No, I don't think it was a cruel joke. I think their observation about you was quite correct. In fact, they might have been trying to reach out to you, because you seem like "one of them."

So, think again. Is it possible that you were engaging in some kind of self-fulfilling prophecy that wasn't based on reality to start with? Do a bit of introspection. Try examining yourself; see your good points. You might get surprised with the results; how you see yourself may not be consistent with reality. Yup, that happens to some people. They put themselves down, but there isn't really any basis for that.

Since we're at it, why not challenge yourself to be a better person, by having a bit more confidence in yourself? Maybe you were too critical about yourself.

No, it's not a cruel joke.

I wasn't a loner, I was more really shy, and the people I hung out with were not considered the incrowd.

Look at it from an "out of the box" point of view, is my best advice. I think I just sort of glided through high school, like I was half-asleep and I can't remember anything that even happened.

My brothers a "loner" but everyone likes him. Perhaps you had a sort of aura of mystery around you because no one really knew you, or maybe you were intimidating and that's why no one really talked to you (take it as a compliment!) Either way, its a compliment, enjoy it, and don't worry about it.

I wouldn't be able to tell you infact you never really can tell if people are telling the truth or not but best bet is trust your instinck life goes on no matter what and well if it's really a cruel joke and you didn't feel that it was than well just be like I don't need to be cool any ways I mean trust me if people are going to sink to that level just don't bother

I was a serious loner too...but like now that I am out of highschool, there are a lot of people that I have seen now and they tell me how much they wish they would have gotten to know me. I mean it could be that they are just trying to be nice to you now because they realize that you really are nice person or something.

I was a loner in highschool as well, but I still get recognized by people who were the "smart" and "popular" people and they're all really nice to me. But since I am no longer in highschool I don't label myself or them anything...I just say "hi" and hold a conversation regardless of who we were in highschool.

so i am guessing you are out of school, then?

ok the incowd should mean nothing to you. at school i try to avoid contact with most people, just because how stupid people can be. and i know that most of these people, if not all, wont mean a thing to me once im outta there.

i am kinda leaning on the fact that it is not a cruel joke....buh i wudn't juss close my eyes and believe them 100%....be nice to them...buh study them urself...