Is there one event that happened in the course of your life that changed the way you see yourself?

Yes. Homosexual marriage in my state of Massachusetts has alienated me from the democratic process and I see myself as a stranger in the USA.

Yup. Letting go of many years of pride and superior attitude and deciding to accept and love God. Not as a myth, an allegory, a useful philosophical or psychological construction that helps people feel better and do better, but as a real, living presence in me and in the world. That changes everything if one is brave enough to do it. Seemingly insurmountable challenges become manageable because there's an endless source of strength, wisdom, creativity and peace to turn to.

i watched the secret....

No, that is a negative thought. you create your own future.

people dwell on what they dont want therefore it appears time and time again.....

The law of attraction says you attract like a magnet what your thinking and feeling about.

watch the secret..its a good positive thing. here is the 1st 25 minutes.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_b1gkgwjb...

It works 100%.

and why would it not?

1st step is having gratitude for all the good things in your life, thus focusing on positive things that make you happy.

2nd is asking and defining your goals, believing in yourself and having joy that it is coming.

These are all essential in becoming succesful.

it's you becoming positive and being grateful for what you have...starting to shift your energy etc...

it could come to you in a million forms...perhaps you get a raise, a part time job, go into a venture with someone, it takes time also..most people fail because they simply give up...

it is VERY rare for a very happy, positive person that gets off thier butt and works hard to fail.

Going through a horrendous breakup. It may seem like a trivial thing compared to death or illness, obviously, but it made me see that even when I think things will never be ok, they will be someday. I don't always have to have someone, and everything happens when it's supposed to in life. Life's too short to worry so much!

Yes for sure! My breakup with my boyfriend definitly showed me a different perspective of life. It showed me people cannot always be trusted, no matter how much you think you do. I also learned how I don't need a guy in my life to make me happy, be who I am and everything should fall into place.

i would have to say no. there's no one event that changed the way i saw myself. it was more of a daily thing, my daily interaction with my husband made me realize that i too am wonderful if he can love me like that. the daily reassurance, support, acceptance, encouragement and tenderness he shows me made me feel really loved and forced me to let go of hangups accumulated from toxic relationships which could really dent your self-esteem.....that too was not a one time event but was a constant thing, kinda like hammering on a nail.

Yes many. The recent one is leaving my family to work abroad for a living.

OK, so up untill about a year ago i was like a servant. My sister and my mother have very controlling personalities, where as i, like my dad, have a shy submissive personality, or used to anyway. My sister and my mom always had me doing things for them but i partly blame my self for allowing them. so anyway i was always thinking about them and the next thing i could do to make them happy, when given a choice of a gift first from a nighbor or friend i would choose the one i hated just so my sister could have the one i knew she would want and later would end up getting the one i had taken from me by her. but i never said anything. i was brainwashed.so around the time i was 12 i stopped liking to make my sis and mom happy by sacrificing my own happiness. so inside my head i always made a retort when they told me to do something. and then on my 13th birthday my mom came home from a trip to germany, yes on my birthday, and brought us home presents. well my sister got about three times more than i did, and i was pissed, inside my head of couse, so my dad thought i didnt get enough either and he called me in there and my mom had had a nasty sneer on her face and she asked me if i thought i got enough. and of couse i said yes and thanked them for my gifts again. but my dad saw right through and the next day tok me shopping for a new radio. no im not some selfish little kid but if youd seen what id had youd feel the same way. my dad was the only one who told me happy birthday, i made my own cake and my mom didnt want to hear the song so we werent allowed to sing it or put candles in the cake. so about a month later my mom was in one of her moods and was telling me to tdo all these pointless things and i said no after she finished. she gave me this surprised stare for about a miute but seemed for like an hour. then she recited the list again and i said i will d them if she asked. then she started to yell and my dad came home and calmed her down. that was my first big step. later my sister was going through my closet taking all my clothes and i told her to get out. she did the same as my mom and then slapped me. i slammed her agaist the closet doors and told her to get out once more. and she did. now my mom and my sister and i are always fighting, but now at least half the time they asked me to do stuff instead of ordering me. so now i veiw my self as almost independent and strong, im still working on it but maybe ill be respected by the time i move out. so yep story of my life.

Being the one who was alone with a loved one at death. It was a gift. Why worry? Why be negative? Those were his legacies to me.

I admitted i am an alcoholic and addict and sought help...and

recovering slowly but positively...