What else could I do?

You and your husband are doing the right thing! There are sick-o's out there who prey on little girls! (Watch Chris Hanson's Dateline series "To Catch a Predator"!) Ground her for however long you feel is appropriate and when she is finally allowed back on the computer, be sure that you or your husband is right there monitoring her. Do NOT feel guilty for spying on her! She's only 10 and it's not spying, it's called PARENTING! Explain to grandma what happened and tell grandma to email and print them out to give to your daughter. I'm sure grandma completely understands!

DO NOT FEEL GUILTY, they are the kid you are the parent, they should not have rights until they get a job and move out on their own.

So many laid back parents have done nothing but kill their children by "respecting their privacy" STOP THE MADNESS. Save your kids life. Get in their business and stay in it, sure you will be the bad guy for a while, but it is worth it to see your kids grow up and prosper in life, they will eventually thank you.

I am reminded of a old commercial where Carol O Connor, best known for his role in All in the family and Heat of the night, stating do whatever it takes to stop your kids from taking drugs. You see he lost his son to drugs, Hugh Connor, he played a deputy on the show Heat of the night.

As for as her using the computer there is a lot of software out there that protects kids to a degree, a lot of this software has settings to have to put in a password for different functions, such a messaging programs, adult sites etc.. Although it is not a substitute for good parental supervision, it helps.

i understand how you feel i am scared to death to allow my children on a computer at all becausse they dont understand how people are out there i think you did right by calling her dad and by taking her computer privages from her for now at least i dont now if i would delite ever thing she has on there maby ground her for a little while and try her one more time then if she still doesnt follow the rules you give her then take it compitly you would rather her to use it in from of you rather then behind your back

in case you want greater 'clean and tidy' issues to do, then you quite ought to bathe different flooring, airborne dirt and dust and varnish, clean abode windows, have a transformation around with furnishings, organize issues in yet differently, kind by way of your kitchen and so on Or something exciting, bypass out and shop till you drop!

Why not allow her to continue to make friends, but stress the importance of strangers. You can also put a keylogger on your machine just so you can double check the conversation she is having....

you're lucky you caught her so soon, she's only 10, banning her from the computer would be considered getting off easy this time

you guys are doing what parents are suppose to do, you are protecting your child. i say no messaging, no unsupervised computer time, she's only ten.

just have trust in ur daughter lol

maybe she just wants friends.