Is this normal attitude for a teenager, and father?

Maybe if you started ignoring your husband to that degree, it might get some answers from him! I dont know that I could ignore someone like that, and Im not suggesting it, but I couldnt live like that. Maybe the mother should just keep him there at her house. It sounds like the son harbors ill feelings towards you. How long have you been his step mother? It is a SERIOUS lack of respect for you from both father and son! The father should not allow this, and the son shouldnt be doing it!How old is this kid? Hmmmmmmm I think I would be careful about causing more resentment or more issues when possible, and if dad wont listen you might be stuck! But it depends on how far you are willing to go to get this resolved! The kid is getting away with it and the dad ignores it! If you take the door off the bedroom, or take away the tv or games in his room, that might force him to come out or just be angrier. What changes has the kid had in the last 8 months that are affecting him like this? It might not be you at all. I think I would set my hubby down and lay it on the line. I love you BUT these things HAVE TO CHANGE or........... and tell him in a kind but firm way what you want. ANYTHING disrespectful by the kid to you should have a consequence. PERIOD. Turning his back on you OMG. ANd it probably should be dad that gives the consequence- but then the kid knows you wont or cant so he can get away with even more! How long till he is 18? If you dont get this handled now, and he has several more years at home- it will just get worse. It can destroy your marraige and other family members to. If your husband loves you, he shouldnt want to see his child treat you that way. But, my hubby had an issue with refusing to be the bad guy because he felt guilty for not staying closer to his kids when he divorced. So they got away with murder until I stepped in and took charge because HE wouldnt do anything to them, but was hard on OUR children! I dont know that the kids really appreciate the difference between the life they have now and the life they had then! All they know is that there parents are divorced and dad has married HER! (you). They dont always know or understand how to deal with it all!

Good Luck with whatever you decide, but if it was me, (and 30 years ago it was), then I would say its them or me! They dont have to like you, but they do need to show respect and they do have to mind!

Sounds like his mother has turned him against you. Have you ever had arguments or confrontations? Why not try little things to get through to him....leave him a nice note, bring him an ice cream, kill him with kindness. Sometimes it takes the adult to reach out and do the right thing to mend something, even if you haven't done anything wrong in the first place. He may feel like he is betraying his mother by even speaking to you, and is feeling torn and stuck in the middle. Have you tried to have a small talk with him? Just the two of you? I think I would also rethink not going anywhere because if he sees you and your husband together and happy and in a healthy relationship, he may have to realize and admit that you are not the monster he has made you out to be. Good luck.

A man is to love his wife as he loves himself, says the Bible.

He should stand up for you and beside you, show the most respect for you. You are to be the most important to him.

I know he wants a relationship with his son, and understand that, very normal. There should be some definite regulations set for his son by the father. The son isn't there part of the week but when he is he should show respect. He doesn't have to like you just respect and also you should respect him while he is there, let him stay in his room. But respect is the main word. Husband so important!!

Collette's answer maybe better than mine.

He feels that you're taking is mother's place,but you do not need to take this from either both of them!!!

If I were you, I would put my foot down & walk right up to that little son of his & say "you don't have to like me, but you're going to start treating me with respect when you're in MY HOUSE"...he's gonna either ignore you or talk back at you at this point...when he does, just say to yourself...OK & take his tv,video games, phones, etc. anything that he could play or use away from him...let him know that you mean business.

When daddy comes home or he's there through all this...let him know that that is your home & he's gonna respect you too...if neither of them wants to....show them the f**king door...& say get the hell out of your house...at this point the husband may realize your anger faster than his son...maybe he'll talk to him & get him 2 straighten up more when he's around you.

Let me tell ya...there's gonna be a day or two to where the son is gonna need you be/c both he's dad & mom aren't around for him & you're pretty much the last resort...once he needs you...don't hasitate or get angry...be there for him quicker than both of his parents put together, then after awhile maybe he'll start to realize that you're not a bad person at all.

You are probably not going to vote this best answer, but here goes.

I know this has to hurt you so much. To have his son seem to reject you. He is doing that on the outside, probably testing you. Or it could be as simple as someone says bad things about you and he wants to see if they are true.

So, here is what you do. When he comes over, welcome him with a smile, offer him something to drink or eat. Be kind to him and start taking him out again.

Do things that make him feel welcome. Show him the love and eventually he will come around. What you are doing now will never make that happen.

Your husband can not fix this. YOU have to do it. Actions speak louder than words.

The fact that it hurts you that the boy does not acknowlege you is a good sign you want this to work. You can make this happen. Take it slow and you will win in the end.

Good luck hun.

This is common with step parents. Sounds like your husband will always take his son's side, no matter what. So in theory, yes you will have to either deal with it or decide if you can be happy living like that.

Also, if your husband was living with no money and in a rodent-infested house, maybe you were just his meal ticket out and that's why he's allowing his son to treat you this way.

Whatever the reason, you don't deserve it.

The boy doesn't want you replaceing his mother. His actions could also be from maybe the way your acting!! You more than likely don't even make him feel welcome!!

IT's not YOUR place to STOP outings when he's there. These outings could maybe bring you 2 closer.

I get the feeling your not really to nice to this kid for some reason.

Why not run out and get some counceling sessions under your belt so you have a better way of relateing to this kid and his feelings. Some adults forget that KIDS DO have FEELINGS!

Unfortunately there is NOTHING you can do to convince anybody of anything when they do not see the forest for the trees! The best you can do is protect yourself, your integrity and your honor by demanding his son respect you in at least, the basic protocol of family relationships. If your requests are not met, there is no reason why you should subject yourself to this rude treatment! They will both understand your point of view through your actions rather than your words!

Whoa! I feel sorry for you. I would put my foot down and demand some respect from the kid and back-up from the father. I would tell him that he does not have to like me, but that he can no longer make me uncomfortable in my own house. He can either be polite, or get the Hell out.

I am a teenager now and completely understand what he is going through, he will see you as trying to take over his mother's position. My mum is on her own with me and I often acted out when she had a boyfriend. If I were you I would back off.