whats a reasonable gift?

i suggest something like a voucher to a restaurant (dinner for two)

I think offering to be the photographer would be a lovely gift. When you are done you can give them several photos nicely framed, and even put together a little album for them or a CD montage (really easy on a PC, even easier on a MAC).

If you want to give them something the day of, send a bottle of champagne & some chocolates to their hotel suite for after the wedding.

Not really. They already have a professional photographer and plenty of pictures...and likely plenty of frames already gifted.

I would look on the registry and just find something you can afford instead of guessing what the couple wants. If there is not reigstry they want cash or gift cards so do that. Better a cheaper gift they will definately like than trying to make a cheap gift look expensive and still end up in the closet.

In a word...NO.

That is not a good gift. Your gift doesn't have to be expensive, but giving a frame with a picture already in it is very rude. The message you are sending is,"Please display THIS picture in THIS frame."

If you would like to get them a frame or two, so be it. As for the pictures, simply send them an e-mail at a later date that states "I have some cute pics, would you like copies?"

The recipient of the picture frame should decide what picture goes in it.

As for your guilt about 'not being rich'....don't sweat it. They are already established (as you mentioned)....they don't need your gift to help them get 'set up'. Just be supportive, and remember- no matter how old a bride is....this is HER day. Make it special for her....

Good luck.