Tell me what you think, Please?

Not only is the X is piece of work so is your MIL. Did your hubby know all about this? and you were the last to know....if that is the case then you have been made a fool out of. The only ones being hurt by this is the children and shame on the X, MIL and possibly your hubby.

If I was in that situation...well I would have to tell everyone involved to grow up and take responsibilty and that you are not some type of idiot. It is hard to take a step back as children are involved but how can you be part of things as you are kept in the dark!!!!!

first off i wouldnt worry about the relationship between her and his mother. she was there before you, and just because her son is no longer with this woman she has every right to keep a relationship with her, especially because she has grandchildren to be around. second of all i think that their father should be handling their schooling. dont get into a debate over what the mother tells the school, because it will only come back to bite you...you should step back and let their father handle the situation with their mother.

Do the kids normally have trouble at school or not? If not when they are with you, then you, your husband and the ex need to talk as grownups who want what's best for the children.

even though you are the one who takes care of all the schooling needs, i'd still let my husband handle this one. this is his x not yours, and, also, this is his mother who has been keeping secrets. it's up to him, to let everyone know his feelings and explain to them how you have been the biggest of help in caring for the childrens needs. let him set up rules for all to follow.

she's just acting retarded jealous cuz ur with him... i would have a talk with ur hubby and see what he says maybe he'll talk to her about it