Should I cut off contact with my mentally ill Mother?

Paramecium theory: if it hurts when you do that, don't do that...

Single-celled organisms don't subject themselves to pain if they can avoid it. We're usually smarter than they are (they have no brains, after all), but in some situations, we don't listed to our instincts.

If this were anyone besides your mom, I bet you wouldn't hesitate to tell her off, escort her from your home, and get on with your life. If you're in a healthy, longterm, monogamous relationship (I won't say "marriage" because it doesn't sound like that's possible) and have a child together, your loyalty is to protecting your family from unhealthy influences. It doesn't matter if she's mentally ill. If she's not getting treatment or therapy, then she's not healthy and not taking care of herself. You need to protect your family, particularly your son (who probably doesn't understand social interaction anyway, let alone unhealthy social interation), from her, and if your extended family won't help you, then it's probably time to re-evaluate how valuable it is for you to be in contact with them, too. Find support among friends and in-laws and with those members of your family who see what she's doing...

Good luck.

I know your pain!!!! I am in a similar situation and have distanced myself because if not I was going off the deep end. I recently made contact again but things did not change so I keep my distance and take care of my little family. The inner turmoil is with me daily but in a whole I feel as though I am better off rather than having the mental abuse. I know in my heart that I would never do this to my own child as I do not want them to feel the pain that I am in. I live for my children and to be a better parent

You need to go with what you are feeling. My grandma is kinda like that. Really mean and crazy. So you need to search deep down in your heart and decide! I personally do not any longer have any kind of relationship with my grandma. I tried and tried but in the end it was better for me. I wish I could help more but good luck to you. You don't deserve to be treated like that and you should tell her that. That if she is going to keep saying these things to you and treating you like this then you are going to be out of her life if she starts doing a crying bit on you tell her its not going to happened. You deserve respect and as your mother she should understand that. Good luck. Best wishes to you!

well, its either time to accept she is ill and have very limited contact and have skin like a rhino during your contact...or...totally sever ties. sounds like you suffered enough. my grandmother was mentally ill and my mum ended up having about once every 2 years contact after she was placed in a home. She was extremely hurtful to my mum and me. my mum felt a huge relief when she passed on, but, at the same time i dunno if she did grieve a little in private because all her friends and family that loved my mum saw how cruel my grandmother could be so she didn't want to let it show. she did recently say to me during a conversation...'after all she was my mother'...

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mentally ill pepole cant help that thier mental.but you need to do whats best for you and your main family now.i would say just talk to her at a distance,to pertect you and yours

You need to ask yourself whats best for you and your son and go from there.

usually i would say just try to work it out with you mother

but this is insanity.

break off your connections!

You have the choice to decide, make it.

i personally think that this isnt a decision you should let strangers make for you by putting it up on yahoo answers. you need to make it your self.