possibly pregnant with boyfriends baby and am still married! help!?

Tell your husband the truth. Tell him that do to the way he had been with you. You met a man. And that you care for the guy you met and are perhaps expecting a child. The baby part. You can know for sure by taking a simple pregnancy test. Divorce your husband. You didn't mention children from your marriage. So I assume there aren't any. I'm glad you met someone that could give you the love your husband couldn't or wouldn't. I know what it's like to live with someone who makes no real effort to better the relationship. Now that he is willing it's to late. Don't feel bad about what you have done. If he had acted as a husband should this would have never happened.

If you are not happy in your marriage and you want to be with the man you are pregnant by I would do it. I think you went about the situation in the wrong way though. I understand the frustration you felt and I am sorry that you flt so undesired and unloved. I would have pursued a divorce or at least a separation though before I slept with another man. It is not an unusual situation but it is also commonly frowned up on in our society. If you want to stay in your marriage, you need to talk to your husband and see what he says about the situation. If you think the relationship with your husband is worth salvaging then I would try to work things out with him by telling him the truth and the reasoning behind it no matter how much it may hurt him. Only you know what will make you happy so follow your instincts and you can't go wrong in choosing who you should be with. I think you can do it and I have faith in you that you can and will make the right decision based on what you want. Don't stay with your husband just because you are married. If you are in love with the other guy and you are not happy with your husband then leave him. Personally, I couldn't stay with a guy that refused to have sex with me and broke promises of getting help for his lack of interest in me. There are too many fish in the sea per say to have to go through life living like that. Your husband has broken promises to you before about getting help in this situation so maybe now that he knows you are willing and ready to leave him perhaps he will get some help for his problem. Actions speak louder than words. I think he needs to know the truth though. The whole truth. Follow the advice that you would give to a friend if she was in this type of situation. I have found that it is easier to give advice than to take your own.

First...you should have left your husband before having the affair and you wouldn't be in this mess.

Second, there's nothing you can to change where you are at now. Go through with the divorce because a marriage without "love" is no marriage to raise a child in. But be wary...it sounds like this boyfriend may have only been a quick fix for you! You were in emotional turmoil and turned to someone who fullfilled your needs at the moment. I would highly suspect that in another year or so you will realize you never loved this man either and he was just a rebound relationship that you put yourself into to feel better. Kudos on breaking the hearts of not just one, but two men. Next time get yourself some counselling before swapping beds.

You made this bed and you'll have to lay in it. Make a decision and stick to it... right or wrong. No one else can tell you what to do since you're the one that will have to live with the consequences.

By the way, if you felt so unhappy in your marriage, why didn't you do something more respectable than making yourself less desirable to your friends and family as well?

I think that you can't help who you love and that if you were feeling neglected and your husband promised to seek help but never did, you went searching for love in other places.. and have seemed to find it.

Now that you could be pregnant, I'd wait to find out for sure and then come to conclusions with who you want to be with. If you're no longer in love with your husband but still love him, the best thing to do is to make sure the divorce becomes finalized because you love him enough to want what is best for him and to move on. I also think you should be truthful with him and let him know that you've moved on because he wasn't supporting you emotionally and never got the help in time. It's just a little too late for him now, he made that mistake of taking too long to seek help, so you moved on. You have to tell him honestly and move on with your life.

Matters of the heart are never an easy fix.

You need to tell your husband its over and thats final so he doesn't still think he has a chance. He needs to know its time to move on with his life. Whether you tell him about the baby with your new guy in order to make him realize this or not is up to you.

As far as the new guy goes.. well there are so many factors to think about, but its between you and him and not his family.. regardless of how much they try and butt in.

Sounds like you got what you deserve. You sound irresponsible. Still married but separated and getting knocked up. HELLO. No wonder your husband lost interest. He realizes he married a bimbo. Why don't you pull your head out of your *** and start growing up a little. Perhaps then you might make the right decisions that wont complicate your life. I don't feel as sorry for you as you feel sorry for you. You're just the typical tramp that one person responded to as giving the rest of us "ladies" a bad name.

first i find it funny that you say you are possibly pregnant with your boyfriend's baby and still married (some irony in that)

but anyways, i don't promote abortions or say it is the best thing to do, but if i were you i personally would be making a trip to the clinic if you want your relationship to work out with your husband. how are you going to explain the timing.

if you don't care, then keep the baby. that is what is wrong with the children today, they are born in f up situations and then they go to school with our children and take out their frustrations out on them

Any man who pursues a married woman has no respect for the man that she is amrried to.

A sight of a wedding band means one thing. BACK OFF, THIS PERSON IS TAKEN.

Of course, if you wouldn't have been searching for sex, none of this would have ever happened, now would it?

In this situation, You andhim are two miserable people about to make another persons life miserable.

The Rat

OOOOOOOOOOOOOOh Snap that is some crazy stuff. W0w this is gonna get crazy when you husband finds out. X_x My advise to you is to some way change the minds of your family and friends about the new guy then tell everyone about whats going on.