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Should I be concerned?

I have a 4 year old daughter and she always refers to herself in the 3rd person. Should I be concerned or is it just a phase?

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
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    It's just a phase. One thing to consider is if she watches Sesame Street - Elmo refers to himself in the third person, which may be where she is getting it from.

  • 1 decade ago

    I can understand the concern you have. It sounds strange for a 4 year old to refer to herself in the third person. But it's normal at this age when they're learning all the little nuances of language and grammar to go through a phase like this.

    When you're in her company, it's perfectly fine for you to gently correct her on occasion. It's fair for you to point out that it's okay to use "me" and "I" in conversation.

    As a parent, I'm quite impressed your daughter is doing the third person thing, since that's something boys don't "get" at that age. :)

  • 1 decade ago

    At her age she is mimicking the way she has heard adults speak of her. The next18 months are the most important part of her developing a sense of self (realizing she is a person instead of an extension of you). If you are concerned then try not to talk about her when she is there, instead talk to her. E>G> don't say to Grandma "Amy did this" ask Amy "did you do this?" It will help her separate identity for herself. Then you get to deal with your own separation anxiety as she takes her Independence.I envy you.

  • 1 decade ago

    Don't make a mountain out of a mole hill or it will become a mountain in her life. Just hug her and love her and she will come thru it.

    My girls are now 20 & 22. My eldest was a tough cookie! I loved her thru every tough stage and she is an amazing woman today. I would encourage you to not deal with it directly but distract her and play another game, read a book, do something fun. It is an attention getter and if you don't give it the attention she wants she will put it down.

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  • 1 decade ago

    It's just a phase. She's learning that's all. It's you job to correct her and teach her. Kids do listen to their parents. Nothing to be concerned about.

  • 1 decade ago

    It is likely a phase. Small children just mimic what they hear from other people, so when they are addressed by others it kind of sticks with them. They really don't understand what they are doing, for the most part, it is just copying.

  • 1 decade ago

    Just a phase. My son's preschool teacher called a conference with me saying he needed a speech therapist, counseling, etc. when he was only 3 for the same reason. I told her he would grow out of it and he did.

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  • 1 decade ago

    i can't say its just a phase. a phase meaning she can just outgrow it naturally without any guidance at all. i suggest that you correct her everytime she do it. correct her sentence but not to the point you scold her. because if no one tells her the proper way, she may think that she's doing the right thing.

    and be sure you praise her everytime she did it right even without anybody's help. this will encourage her even more.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    i would say phase, ut if she continues then take her to your dr and find out, i am pretty sure she will grow out of it, my little 5yr old nevere actually went through anything like that nor did she have imaginary friends, but she was too grown up fpr her age and is more into playing with dolls and painting. good luck and i wish you well with your little daughters health.

    Source(s): being a parent myself with anouther one on the way.
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