2nd attempt, so as not to offend the yahooer people,..?

I would have chosen not to participate as well. I wouldn't want my friend marrying someone that disgusting and inconsiderate anyway. I hope you told your friend why you are choosing not to participate in the wedding so she at least knows what she's getting into before making that commitment.

It sounds like your friend was very considerate by asking you to mc so you would not have to interact with other men in ways that would make you and/or your husband uncomfortable. To me it would not be a big deal to walk down the aisle or dance with someone else but if it makes you or your husband uncomfortable or is not culturally acceptable you were well within your right to decline being put in that situation...your relationship with your husband and doing what is best for your relationship with him is more important than whether you attend a wedding as a bridesmaid or an mc...or skip it altogether. Too bad her ogre of a fiance' went and ruined the thoughtfulness of her gesture. I think you handled things just fine.

Here I am again. You need to talk to the bride. You need to let her know you are offended and that you don't think you can help at her wedding with a gracious heart. My first impulse was to tell the guy off, but that is not right. He might have been joking, or one of his bridal party might have heard him grousing about your request and decided to play a little joke on him. If I were marrying a jerk who would do this to one of my closest friends, I'd want to know. I would also want to resolve the issue before the wedding.

I'm sure your husband is a lovely man, and regardless of whether people agree with his or your religion, they should respect your customs. I wouldn't spit in a baptismal font, hug a Hassidic man I didn't know or slaughter a lamb in front of a buddhist pacifist. It's common curtesy. Do you really want your closest friend marrying a jerk without knowing he's a jerk? I'm not suggestion you break up their wedding, but she does deserve a chance to resolve this issue before he offends more of her intimates. Maybe he just needs a slap up side the head from her. My two cents.

Sorry you got lamblasted. You need advice, not critism.

Wow, you're friend picked a real winner! You said you are Canadian, so you should know as to whether or not that is truly one of your customs. If I were you I'd go directly to my friend and inform her of the message (or have her over and show it to her.) Your friend deserves to know what kind of jerk she is marrying. Joke or not that was totally inappropriate and uncalled for!! I think you and your husband are wise not to participate in the wedding. Why condone his behavior?

I think not participating in the wedding was really your only option. How rude, disrespectful, and childish for such things to be said to you or of you. Obviously, your friend will have a lot of fun dealing with a lifetime of asinine behavior. Be glad you are married to someone who values you enough to be offended by the way you were regaurded.

As for the friendship, she needs to understand how humilitating it was for you and your husband to have been subject to such treatment. You have nothing to be forgiven for and I would keep my distance form her new knight in shining nothing. I would have to guess that a man with no better judgement or impulse control might not stay married for long, anyway.

You're kidding, right? Tell me you're kidding! I don't care what faith your husband is, I find that "requirement" repulsive to all walks of life. Muslim or not, Christian or not, blue polka-dotted duck or not, that was plain wrong. If that's your friend's idea of including you in the wedding and showing her affection for you, I'm sorry but you're better off uninvolved.

Wow, that's taking disrespectful to a whole new level...even if it was meant in jest. Your husband must be furious. (Anyone's would).

Your friend must be terribly embarrassed by her fiances actions...try not to penalise her or your friendship just because he is a ******.

I'm not Canadian but I think that guy made up that custom. It is an insult to you. I think maybe this guy just doesn't want you to be part of his wedding.

With friends like that, who needs enemies? Consider that you got a very huge present from them.

Sounds to me like he was making fun of you because you wanted your husband to walk with you instead of another man. Get over yourself, why should they want your husband to be part of the wedding party just because you are a prude.

I think thats wierd. I think you are making it up.