I just learned my uncle is in hospital and isn't expected to live long. He is very depressed. Words of hope?

The best thing you can do is to bring back memories to him.After you get there,ask the two of them what the other was like growing up.Even if you have heard all the stories before,it will help them.If you have pictures of the two of them together,it would be great if you can bring them along.It might just be the conversation starter you need.Your father is naturally angry,because he is scared.Sometimes,just a hand on a shoulder is all that is needed.And,if all else fails,ask the men to tell you a story about their parents that you may not have heard.Try to avoid the subject of death all together,even though it is slapping you in the face.The viewpoints of religion is not important at this moment.It is the fact that you have very little time with someone who is so precious to your family.Relish what time you have left,and reminesce what time you have spent together.

I'm very sorry to hear that. The thing is that it is impossible to predict anything in advance: you will get there and then you will see. Maybe it is not even necessary to say anything, just to be there for you uncle and your father. But if it words are needed, you will say the right ones. Being a social idiot does not have anything to do with it. Rather, I think, people like that are much more genuine than the rest of them and that's exactly what makes them social idiots but also ... irreplaceable in a crisis.

I know you will alleviate the suffering, even if you won't say a word.

Wishing you and your dear ones strength.

Well the last thing you should do is talk about him dying unless he brings it up. Go by his lead and whatever he says to see how you should respond. Being religious or not doesn't matter and everyones view points on death are valid no mater how different. But don't get into that with other family in front of your uncle. It is always hard to have a loved one who is ill and dying and being angry is your father's way of dealing with it. Try reminiscing about days gone by and things you all got up to when you were a kid and how you remember him and your father back then. Just try to keep your uncle in good spirits until his time comes and keep calm as to not let your emotions show through to him. When my step mum was dying I just told her how beautiful she was and that we were all here for her . As she was on morphine and drifting in and out of consciousness I don't know what she heard but I kept my voice soft and gentle and I didn't let her know my heart was breaking for her and the family. Plus she didn't know she was dying only she was real sick. So we couldn't say anything to revealing in case she overheard as it would have made her time go quicker. Just support your father and family and understand we all go through different emotions and it is ok.

Saddened to hear of your situation. There will be a lot of different emotions from members of the family as they come to terms with this and begin to process the grief. It is tough to talk with someone who is dying. Most importantly express your love and appreciation for the person. Spend as much time as possible with them and support the rest of the family in practical ways if possible. Keep things natural. Be yourself and let your uncle direct conversations. Keep things light and as positive as possible. Ask the staff in the hospital or chaplains for advice if you feel overwhelmed as they deal with death on a regular basis and will identify with you. If you know your uncle's favourite food, music or books take these with you assuming the hospital allows it. All the best. I wish you well.

Recently, my husband's uncle died, very suddenly, as a result of an automobile accident. It has really comforted my husband that he and his uncle had been able to reminisce about fun activities they had shared, long ago. My mom died a month ago, after a long illness. As it became apparent that the end was near, I tried to "give her permission" to die. I reassured her that we (the kids) were all happy and healthy, (not necessarily true...) so she wouldn't need to use her remaining strength worrying about us. Also, if a family member - such as your dad - wants to be with your uncle until the bitter end, try to help him to make that happen. Bring him coffee and a blanket, etc. and talk to the nurses about his close relationship with his brother. I hope this helps. I will keep all of you in my thoughts.

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my dear, it doesn't matter if your not christian, that an be changed at any time. also remember there is always, always hope and miracles do still happen!!!!!!!i am one my self, and with the prayers from family friends, and co-workers, i am alive and almost fully recovered 5 years later!!!!!!!!!!!to help you and your father deal with this, there is a very good book, i recommend, its called,"heaven is real"by don pipper, very uplifting and spiritual.buy your uncle and angel, take it to him, tell him to never give up miracles do come true, then pray with hI'm and go home and pray every night and day for his life, im not saying its full proof,but putting your faith in something and giving him hope is a good step.I'll pray for him to tonight when i say my prayers,good luck my dear and god bless you all

No need to discuss your thoughts on death. Enjoy the little time that you have together. Laugh, and love. Maybe write him a note telling him how much you love him and how much he has meant to your life. Make him feel that his life had a purpose. I am sorry for your loss.(future loss) I think that death is natural also. But I would still pray. If his time is short pray for comfort in his life.

Yes it is very natural and natural to want to help. I've found the best way to help in this case is to just be present, see with your eyes and hear with your ears, and this way you will be there for everyone. There is great sadness sometimes but in this sadness we find great beauty, the beauty that is ourselves.