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Debbie
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Debbie asked in Society & CultureEtiquette · 1 decade ago

What are the rules of etiquette on baby showers?

In particular for an older woman in her forties that has already raised 2 kids. She has remarried and is now having a baby with the new husband. She had a baby shower with her first child who is now grown and married. Is it appropriate to have another baby shower with this new baby?

Update:

Jade & Kirkus why is it out of all the answers you two are the only that assume the negative? And Petkit I don't even understand your response. To everyone else thanks for your very useful advise. See, there are very decent people around. This was just something that I was always curious about and had always just thought that a shower was given only once for each occasion.

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  • SadieB
    Lv 5
    1 decade ago
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    Tradition is that you have a baby shower with your first but it is not uncommon to have a baby shower for each baby, especially in a situation where there is a gap in time between children. It really is like she is starting all over so I don't see why it would be inappropriate. In fact, I like the idea of every baby having a shower. Its not necessarily about the Mom but the baby. Each baby is special no matter if they are born first or not.

  • ?
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago

    now a days I think people have a baby shower for every child no matter how close they are. I think it is kind of tacky though if someone has a 3 year old and has a baby shower for the new baby. But the way you are talking the woman needs a baby shower so she can get things for the baby. Her kids are grown and I'm sure she didn't save the things she used with them for another baby 15++ years later. A baby shower will help her with the cost of the baby during the first year or so.

  • 1 decade ago

    It is perfectly fine to have a shower for a second baby. After all, you are going to need a few new items. Of course, proper etiquette states that only very close friends and family members should be invited to the shower of a second child. You can also invite people who did not attend any showers for the first child.

  • 1 decade ago

    Yes, definitely.

    The rule of etiquette I've heard regarding this is that if it's been 5 years or more, a baby shower is appropriate.

    However, most people I know get baby showers for every pregnancy anyway

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  • 4 years ago

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Yes, as a celebration of a new baby there should be a celebration. There could be some gifts given, as she's probably gotten rid of her old baby things, and another great idea is to give a frozen meal that she could use for after the baby is born and she could have a night off of cooking.

  • 1 decade ago

    As I understand it, yes--this is perfectly acceptable. Considering her other kids are much older, the crib/carseat/stroller are considered too old to be safe, and the baby clothes are probably either moth eaten or long gone, having a shower in this situation is almost necessary!

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Considering it has been a long time since she had a child, yes.. it would be nice to shower her with supplies she will badly need. It is considered bad taste to have another shower when a woman still has small children at home.

  • 1 decade ago

    I think it's appropriate, she probably hasn't saved anything from her previous children...or they are so out of date. We just had a baby shower for someone having her 5th child...he was unplanned and they had given everything else away.

  • Jason
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago

    The main rule of etiquette on baby showers is not to get soap in the babys eyes.

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