So, if pain is gods way of making us stronger, then my son dying of SIDS was just his way of saying chin up?

cant help on the god part-can say i have nothing but good thoughts going your way-it is hard to bury your own child and nothing i can say will make it easier

I don't recall pain being called a way of making us stronger any where I have read in he Bible. I recall that God sent his Son so that we would live. It's never Gods will any of us die. That would defeat the purpose of His Sons work. People claim that God doesn't answer pray, I claim He answers all prayers, it may not be the answers we want or what we are expecting for an answer. Just because i want to become a well known singer and make all kinds of money, He might see me forgetting where I started out and where I would end up, and destroying myself by doing so.When sin came into the world thing became corrupt. My Father and Mothers cancer was not of Gods will. Your sons death wasn't of Gods will either. I'm very sorry this has been a very trying time for you, and my heart goes out to you . I have kids and grandchildren. We have experienced death and diseases such as Spinal Bifida,( Hemangnomas, not sure of the spelling) and babies born with life threatening bowel obstruction. My wifes sister who got shot in the head at 4and 1/2yrs died when her brothers were playing with a load gun and handed it to her . The boys were 6&7 yrs old. My mother and father as well as I myself use to smoke and we all know the results. That was our choice. They have gone home to be with the Lord. My grandmother never smoked a day in her life and died at 103 yrs with cancer. Some times our decisions is what causes our problems. I certainly would never blame the Lord. I see and hear today about a lot of diseases that the Bible said would come up on man before all is said and done.When we were growing up SIDS wasn't even heard of. I really believe your son is in the shelter of the Lords arms now. I believe the evil one wants you to blame God, he can be a real deciever and thats how he works. I wish I had some way to make your pain go away, and those magic words to say, But I don't hold all the answers and never would claim too. I will keep you and yours in prayer. God Bless

No, that was an excuse that someone made up to overcome their own sense of failure or misfortune without facing it. God does get us comfort in many ways though but will we receive it? Then can we in turn give it?

There are no pat answers to why things like that happen. Are you willing however to accept the comfort that others may be trying to offer? I am sure that maybe you can be a shoulder to cry on for your mate, also. We always wanna cry out "What about me?", whne sometimes it is about the other person that needs it MORE THAN you. In helping them out is where you find your strength and comfort, too.

2 Corinthians 1:3-6

I really feel for you and I hope and pray God comforts your heart and mind so that you can rest in Him and trust Him. I will be saying a prayer for you as this is posted.

God Bless you and keep you wrapped in His loving arms in this time of need.

God may test us with pain and maybe the pain in this situation is the pain you are feeling.

Your son is gone and I'm sorry for the loss and the pain you feel.

I've lost three brothers, my mother, two aunts and a cousin to cancer. Believe me, I can relate.

My relationship with God was not strained in any of these. What it did is make me realize that dying ...is part of life.

life times are not measured in unites of time. and the value of a life is not ours to measure.

What we have left is the grief we feel for someone we've lost but this is just selfishness. We hurt and someone must take the blame.

It doesn't work like that.

If you have never asked God for help, this may be the best time. You may blame him if you want and certainly he is in control. But the universe is way more complicated than that.

I assure you God loves you.

Christ has died to make possible, and

set up, communication between you and God the Father

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I'm not sure that part about pain is true at all.

My take on life is that it's about lessons. You and your son are probably learning a hard lesson in this life so that the next will be all the better. And if you don't believe in reincarnation, check out Carol Bowman's or Ian Stevenson's books. The facts are there. So is hope.

Nobody is spared heartache, whether they are religious or not. I'm really sorry about your son, but God is not picking on you. We all have our burdens to carry and hurdles to get over. I think the comfort in knowing God is that he will help you through this difficult time, send people to support and comfort you and my prayer is that where this door is closing, a new one will be opened for you.

I'm so sorry that you lost your son. I can't even begine to imagine how painful that must be. Personally, I don't believe that God exists, so to me, pain is just pain, and it can happen to anyone, and there doesn't have to be a reason. That doesn't make it any easier to deal with, but at least it doesn't make a sad situation any more difficult than it already is.

No. It isn't. And I am truly sorry for your loss.

God doesn't DO these things. In fact James 1:13 tells us that "when under trial, let no one say 'I am being tried by God.' For with evil things God canot be tried nor does he himself try anyone". We are victims of our own actions, our own imperfections, the actions of others and as King Solomon said "time and unforseen occurrences".

I'm sorry with your son, I hope he gets better. God really is mysterious and unpredictable noone can say what God has in store for you, but believing in God or knowing God can make you feel better, especially when the closest ones is there for you. Sometimes I really questioned the existance of God, but faith has helped me. Your son will be on my prayers to make him better.

Almighty Gos is not in the business of causing pain, Satan is. Satan comes to Kill, Steal, and Destroy.

My sincere condolences on the death of your baby boy, I can not imagine the pain this loss has brought you, and your wife ! But, please believe God didn't cause it, nor did He allow it to make you stronger ! What ever the cause it was not His will.

~OM~

God Loves You ! He Really Does !