I am not able to forget what has happened to me. I am ruined. should I continue to live?

Yes you should continue to live, and perform positive actions. Take refuge in the Buddha, the Dharma & the Sangha, for they shall not lead you astray.

You of all people should realize that you have indeed lost *nothing*, and *nothing* has harmed *you*; all phenomena are illusory, the nature of it impermanent, attachment to it causes guaranteed suffering. Hold onto self of duality and the self shall be harmed (or perceive itself to be harmed), according to it's infinite wealth of negative karma attained since beginningless time.

As the Buddha says in the Nipata sutta:

"Your worst enemy cannot harm you as much

as your own unguarded thoughts.

Develop the mind of equilibrium.

You will always be getting praise and blame,

but do not let either affect the poise of the mind:

follow the calmness, the absence of pride."

Do not look to the future- that is your destiny, which you cannot see (your unrefined, vexated mind *thinks* that it can see it however), create your destiny and shape it how you wish by focusing on the present moment. Thinking of a negative future all the time will ultimately create that scenario, but you can change your destiny, with good selfless actions in the present moment.

Also do not be naíve enough to believe the delusion that death is the end of suffering, only can one cease suffering via renunciation of worldly things, pleasures, creation of new thoughts and the like. All desire creates new karma, desire & actions of self-destruction create new negative karma, to be suffered by ones self again, perhaps in more unfortunate circumstances.

It is your past actions which have put you into this scenario, and if you wish to change, then you must start by changing your actions.

Your life is only ruined then do you not have the ability to renounce things anymore, and being uncaring of stilling & focusing the mind, seeking neutrality and peace. This leads to giving up on the attainment of merit and the determination to attain enlightenment for the sake of all sentient beings, things can only go downhill from there.

Heck, due to the bad karma from that you might even be put into a position where you murder a Buddha in your next life and go to the bottom level of hell for an aeon after that...

It was your destiny and your karma to receive this answer, ensure that you take heed and keep practicing diligently, otherwise things could get a whole lot worse, and nobody wants that.

Maybe you should try starting over?? If everything and everyone seems to remind you about how much you hate life, then start again, somewhere else.

Get a new career, maybe something you always wanted to do, but didn't for whatever reason.

Try getting your mind off of everything, take up some sort of sport or hobby, I recently took up kick boxing and it, well, kicks ***, I met loads of cool people, and during that 1 hour a day, my mind focuses only on the exercise and nothing else, if it did, Id probably get floored XP

Its easy for someone to say focus on the future but to do, its probably best to first look back and find out what you might have done wrong.

Maybe take up some volunteer work, see how many other people are like you or are even worse off than you, helping them out could help you figure things out.

I'm no shrink, I've never helped anyone out with their problems, I'm just a kid who doesn't have a clue what hes talking about XP....Ive never been in your situation, so I cant even sympathise.

But coming from the man who said, "sometimes in life there are situation that we have to show bravery and strong and positive character."

I think you just need to give yourself a slap and pull yourself together.

Try again, your only a failure if you fail to try.

We've all been sorry, and we've all been hurt, but how we survive is what makes us who we are.

Get out of bed and go outside. The world is beautiful and you will never see it if you stay hidden under the covers. I know it is tempting to sleep and cry in the safety of your room, but you will start to feel better once you get out. Get some sunshine on your face, and take a deep breath of fall air and thank God that you are alive and well. Life is what you make it, and I know that right now things seem bad but you will heal and you will grow and be a stronger person because of what happened to you. You may not be able to forget, but the Lord tells us to forgive and He will carry you through this even if you have doubts about Him. He will never give up on you and He loves you. Please talk to Him and give your mom a call or if you live with her sit down and talk to her about what is going on. I hope you decide to live because life is precious and should not be taken for granted.

Honey, i'm fifty 5 married a protracted time. If I have been to run into the guy that became into my previous flame, I problably might sense somthing, that's customary yet i does no longer destroy my marriage over it. He must be using you. you're a married females , took vowels on the regulate. this is not incorrect to have emotions do exactly no longer act on them with the aid of fact i'm valuable you would be very sorry later. I only wish your husband does no longer discover out with regards to the communique or he ought to depart you. possibly you will desire to have a communique with your husband approximately your marriage and examine out some counseling. all of us have tempations and oftentimes times that's annoying, yet you need to stroll away good now. If there became into no longer something incorrect with your marriage once you suddenly met this different guy then do no longer destroy 6 years of annoying artwork already. Love and settle for one yet another for who you're. i'm hoping that enables slightly

just start over, try a therapist it really helps. get out more, try going to the movies with a friend once a week. or go to the mall. you can make new friends anywhere. i think that you should continue to live. life is like a wound. you fall off your skateboard and get cuts. the wound is healed over time. that is the same with your situation. just do something that makes you happy.

Stop blaming others and feeling sorry for yourself.

Go live YOUR LIFE

Get up and take a shower and go to Plan B.

Do you seriously think thatothers live to destry you?

After you try the aforementioned, see a therapist if the

self-pity and narcissism continue - they have medication for this

Don't give up like that!

Life is still great! You can start a new life.

I think you should share your feeling with your family and have fun with them. Keep remember that your family will always love you! Do you love your family too? So, don't blamed your self..just start a new life!

Source :

http://www.tips7.net/T59_Think-Simple-For-Solution...

http://www.tips7.net/T57_Self-Motivation/

why do u want to kill urself so badly why do u want ur frnds as u call them suceed in what theyr doing to u

do this:

move away start a new life while u still can

make new frnds

be happy

make ur self a new person

dont kill yourself