During sex, why is it that...?

Most men can get to orgasm pretty quickly, unless his partner is lying there like a sack of King Edwards and not participating. Some women take forever, no matter what tricks you do, though I suppose this always happens in some long-term relationships.

Amusing that this 'handicap' has been turned into a mystical feat where women treat their own orgasm as a near epiphany moment and write books about it. A man's orgasm is reduced to the level of a cvm shot in a porno film.

Perhaps the issue is simply derived from the fact that women can have, or fake, an orgasm without evidence. However the male can not just flop about going, "oh, oh oh, ooohhhhh" to convince his partner that she has satisfied him. That said, I've read women do prefer for men to make a great commotion at climax; so practice up on those Tarzan howls!

What makes a man a lousy lover is if he's impatient and doesn't understand that some women just take a little longer to orgasm. Who said we need to keep score as to how many and who comes first!!! Sex is fun and if the woman isn't having orgasms then she needs to say so and the man should be willing to learn just exactly what it is that gets her off. OH...btw, that goes for women to....what's good for the goose is good for the gander!

Most women require a different type of stimulation, or simply a longer amount of stimulation, than men in order to climax. I think orgasm for both partners is the responsibility of both partners. A woman should know what works for her and the man should make a point to get to know those needs and visa versa.

I admit that I am te hardest person to give an orgasm to. I had an orgasm with my husband once before we got married, now the only way I can orgasm is if he goes down, or plays with me (if you know what I mean.) I don't blame my husband because I know it is not his fault, but I can see how other woman do this all the time. They shouldn't. In fact, 95% of woman can't have a vaginal orgasm, they actually get there pleasure in another way, like I do. for those woman who can, YOU ARE BLESSED!!!!!

I have never blamed my husband if I did not have an orgasm. I know it is my fault for a variety of reasons. I do not think it is ever fair to blame the man or vice versa. If a woman blames a man, it is because she is immature and does not understand her own sexuality at all. I dont think there should be blame aimed in either direction.

there is a somewhat double standard. but it goes both ways, most often then not, women don't orgasm because the man doesn't wait for her to OR know/care she about her needs. so that does make a man selfish and a lousy lover, or ignorant at best. However, in this overtly sexual country of ours a lot of men know ( the educated ones anyway) and some are considerate enough to care for the needs of their partner and no, that wouldn't make them a bad person.

Also, men DO orgasm more easily them women, so if the man is having difficulty in that department, either hes not turned on or he IS physically unable.

I think perhaps this thinking is becoming passe.

Most women are more than able and willing to see their man reach satisfaction. Afterall, it's a turn on. And if it's a no show, it's chalked up as just one of those days.

And most men of today, have read the female manual and know what they're doing - lol.

Well ummm it's about 50/50, but only if man ejaculated too quickly and I'm still raring to go, but hey these things happen.

Not something to get ones knickers in a knot over.

Utter bs that the man does most of the work, not something I'm going to go into detail here.

If one person is having difficulty achieving orgasm, their partner should be willing to work with them to try to make it happen. Maybe not every time, but one person shouldn't be going without all the time. One should only be criticized if they're not even willing to put in the time and effort to at least try to make it happen.