How we can find out what is our own self image and concepts about life? And how we build up these? How we can?

It should be clear by now, those things are not that simple. Life by itself might be simple, but what we make out of it is every thing else but for sure not simple.

To find out what our self image is, in so far is difficult as this image is mostly unconscious, that means it is stored in a way that we are not aware of it, but we are living and reacting out of this image and also our reactions are like automatic, we don't really know why we are reacting like this, but what we do is that we find the reason for our reactions on the outside and so we give the fault mostly to other people and bad circumstances in happenings. Now there starts the misery with all conflicts, disappointment, frustration, stress, etc. because we are entering into a game involving others. The people at whom we are reacting, giving them the fault for our miserable condition, will react to us out of the same reason, they all have accumulated anger, etc. Now to your question: How can we find out about our self-image? We can find out when we observe our reactions and in what circumstances these come out. It will need some time and some effort, because our self-image is integrated part of our personality and it is part of our human nature, that we don’t like to change. That what is established, we want to keep and if we need to let go of something, then this is felt like a loss or as if something of us is dying. So if some one is not ready, then the usual attitude will continue and the fault will be seen on the outside and this will be also used to defend oneself. But if one is willing to have a critical look at oneself then ones system will open up. The same with all the concepts we have built up about life and all what is part of our surrounding.

How we have build up our self-image and our concepts? Mostly from our education through parents, school, etc. and all what influences us: Other people, books, TV. We are integrating all this in our ‘data base’ and it is formed depending our personal abilities. Connected with our self-image are our needs, wishes, likes and dislikes and we are reacting from early childhood on to what comes to us. Then there are happening traumatic strokes that might have strong impacts on our self-image and our worldview. About all this we are not really conscious. We are kind of aware when we are reacting and we are aware of our feelings, but we mostly don’t know the origins, even though we are getting our feeling of existence out of it and this is absolutely not ‘simple’ as it depends in it’s quality from so many different conditions and we are depending totally on all these. So to get out of this should be our main interest, but this is not the case, people prefer to suffer or to use all kind of tricks; also tobacco, alcohol and drugs serve the same cause, to avoid the confrontation with oneself.

How we can get out of this to become free? If you really want to get out of it and not only get confirmation for your ‘misery’, then you will need to work quite hard. What I wrote before: Observe your reactions and what causes these on the outside, then reflect about it and ask critically about your own background as the real cause. You will realize after some time parts of your background structure and then you can decide if you want to cling on it or you see it as worn out and can let go of it.

This is a growing process and I must tell you that this is not simple, but you will get out of the endless turning around of yourself and new horizons will open up, light will come in and your worldview will expand and most of the problems you have will vanish.

BeiYin

PS: One thing more: To create favorable conditions in your work on yourself, you should be as much relaxed as possible, but daily life situations create constantly stress and to release this I suggest to do a simple (and indeed it is!) exercise. If you do it every day you will have a great benefit from it. You can find advice how to do it and you can start immediately with it after you read my Web page: http://falconblanco.com/release

If there is showing up a difficulty, then you can ask for help…

From the answers it is clear now what builds up our personality with ones self image and all established concepts. As these obviously makes us dependent and we are reacting to the outside happenings out of our mostly unconscious background structure, so I would be highly interested to find out ways to get out of this trap. Could this be a new question or can we find an answer here?

Rahmona

do not get offended at people

do not have preconceived responses

do not hate

do not lie ...cheat steal ....think sad miserable thoughts...

deal with all issues that need to be resolved

Salvation is the main issue

hand over what you cannot control in others to God

The way to do this is, examine each action, and apply corrective measures, this means admitting fault....do not allow pride to stop you, and do not allow miserable projectionists to cut you to shreds, let them goooooooo

Oh yeah do NOT forget, you also will stuff up big time, but get up and keep moving forward, aiming at a single taget/ goal,

PERFECTION

This is a very very rare road that people travel as it is treacherous

DO NOT GET BUMMED OUT, GET UP A THOUSAND TIMES, BUT KEEP THE TARGET IN FOCUS

simply go out into the world and interact with life

simply what you see in your image you put it to work and make that imagination into things.

you see it, own them in real life.