why are dads so hardheaded?

Well I'm a dad with a daughter (albeit a 10 month old) so I thought I would chime in.

If you can give some specifics to your situation we could answer a lot more thouroughly.

However, going on what I see:

I imagine you're in your teens, both from your question and your avatar. That means you're moving from childhood into womanhood; a tricky time for both you and your parents.

You're starting to forge your independence and are beginning to feel sexual like a young woman, and your parents, and Dad in particular is probably fighting that. Parents still remember when they could hold you in their arms, and they get a little resistant in giving that up. I see that now with my wife, and our daughter isn't even a year old yet.

Dad is also probably thinking that in addition to thinking about being sexually active, you may also be thinking about trying drugs and/or alcohol. Maybe these things are true and you are doing or thinking about them, and maybe you aren't, but odds are he thinks about it being likely. Really he's just trying to protect you, which is a sign of love.

However, trust is a sign of love too, and assuming you haven't given him a reason to not trust you, you should sit down and have a heart to heart with him. After all, you're both human, you both make mistakes, and while he doesn't fully understand where you are at in life, he does have a significant amount of life experience to draw upon, which you don't have yet.

You should be honest with him about how his actions are making you feel, and you should make some agreements with him, and stick to those and ask him to trust you.

He's just looking out for your best interests, but at your age, you probably can't quite see that yet, nor are you even sure what IS in your best interest. As long as you communicate with each other and are honest with each other you can move forward. It's also important to admit when you (or he) make a mistake. We all make them, so trying to pretend we didn't just makes a situation worse.

You should be grateful your Dad even has rules for you. Many fathers instead of being the head of the family are just"pals" to their kids, with no discipline, no rules,no integrity, no values they teach their children nothing. Then their children go out and make so many mistakes they become a social problem and wish their Dad had taught them better!

Ok, let's keep it real. You're the ONLY girl and the youngest, and it's crazy out here these days. . put yourself in his shoes. I'm a mother, of ONE 15 year old, I trust her, but I'm also 5 steps ahead of her because people out here will smile in your face and kill you. . please. . .give dad a break, flip the script and think of what kinda father you could have: drug abusers, alcoholic, molesters, abusive (physically or mentally). .you have one that is protective because he loves you. . thank God for him girlfriend. And by the way. . Whiskeyman510 -- gave you some great advice.

What happened in the past to make him not trust you? Myspace has gotten a bad rap lately, so you can't blame him there. Ask him what you can do to earn his trust and start out small, over time you will win his trust.

Could it be that he is wise and just looking out for your best interest? What you are calling "hard headed" he is calling protecting you. Maybe, you should be happy that he is there to protect you instead of crying about the fact that you don't always get your way.

Dad's were once boys and they know all the tricks guys use to get with a girl and he does not someone to hurt his baby. Some girls don't have a dad or one who cares like yours does, you should appreciate him a bit more.

Dads distrust because they know what is in the minds of young men and boys...he was once one himself. Because of this knowledge he knows how easy it is to dupe a woman into doing the one thing a young man wants. He is your protector, he loves you.

let's see...

he's a guy...

some guyz can b hard headed...

or it might be tat it's just cuz tat the connection between the dad n daughter relationship is really bad

Your father is just being protected. Be thankful that he is that way. I grew up without my father and my step father sexually abused me. So your father is like a charm. Don't be so hard on him and be more understanding.

I think mabey your dad want to protect you becuse he knows how boys are at that age just rember your dad was that age before.