what should i do? should i move or not? details inside?

"Live with my mom

pros:

my best friend (2 of them)

my mom who is so cool

my grandparents (they are awsome)

all of my family (except for my dad)

cons:

school is harder

less opportunities

people know me (i cant change what they think)"

I can't change what they think, why is that?

Get a hair cut, get some decent cloths and start reading. start with Launching the Leadership Revolution, that book is #1 on the wsj book list and it's one of the best books I've ever read. from there there are different books refered to in there that are all awesome. If you start reading, you become very interesting to talk to.

And you do change, from the inside out.

gl

School is harder? Really, thats where you need to be then, it means they are teaching more than the school there.

Best friends (2 of them) They may not be your mom's choice of friends but as long as they are not encouraging illegal activities or drinking or drugs, I'd have to chose the friends

Awsome grandparents, couldn't hand me down a better choice.

Lots of family, I'm sorry I would be back in Texas in a heartbeat. The other thing do well in school, really put your mind to it, you say less opportunities, nope they are there you just have to put yourself into the right position with your education. I know a boy who started middle school in the avarage to below grading. He lived in a smaller city, but he decided he wanted more out of life, his grades came up, way up. He won a four year scollarship (fully paid) to collage here in Texas and he spent a couple more years and now he is an junior partner at a law firm handling corporate legal affairs, bringing home 6 figures and he's only worked there three years. Of course it helped getting that junior partner already that he brought with him three companies that members of his family worked for back in that smaller city, and he won several cases he was given because the other attorneys thought they were basically write offs that couldn't be won. So if you set your goals high and work on them, it don't matter if there are less opportunities, because you make your own. At least your thinking and going to finish your freshman year, but the day I passed to go to my senior year I'd be in Texas before the sun set. Good luck and Happy New Year

I f I were you I would definately move back with my mom. Don't listen to what people say about your dad changing cuz he won't. My parents just got divorced this year and i didn't really feel bad. my dad didn't get remarried but when I ent to his house in the beginning he used to talk bad stuff about my mom, until my mom went to her lawyer. Your dad probably won't change, he found a new wife, and although he probably still loves you, he has a new life. [Don't mean to be harsh] Look at all the opportunities you have with your mom: friends, grandparents, and the rest of your family. And don't worry I'm sure their are plenty of girls where your mom lives. You'll make the right choice. Good luck!!!

You have to choose if living with your dad and step mom and having all the girls and school being easy or if you want to be with your mom who you like more and is around the rest of your family. You can't change what people think about you (trust me), and school might be harder but it might be better for you because it is a challenge. And the less opprtunities, you can always leave when you 18-19 years old.

First off,ask yourself why you left mom's in the first place.Then,see about talking to both your mom and dad about the situation.Be sure to include the pro's and con's for both of them,as well as asking their opinions on your moving yet again.I have a set of 14 year old twins,and they have the choice of going to their dad's.However,I have made it very clear to them that if they move there,they won't be allowed back home unless it is a life or death situation.My daughter was considering it until her half sister lived with their dad for 2 years.She then found out that not only would she have chores to deal with,but she would have to do things her dad wanted to do even when she was sick.The kids also found out that dad wouldn't go to their ball games or do any school related things with them unless he was forced.After my kids found all this out,they decided mom's was the place to be.Talk to your parents,find out what their expectations are going to be at either place,and express what you would like to see out of them as well.This will help you make up your mind,and it will also let your parents know where they are lacking.

That's a tough situation, but in all honesty, I think you should go with your Mom, and don't wait til the end of your freshman year. Go as soon as possible, and when you get there, let her know how much you appreciate her love. It will only make your relationship better. Even though there are better opportunities there,how happy will you really be? We all need our families.

move back with your mom

a lazy dad is never a good role model

it sounds like you have a great extended family in texas...

EASY isnt always best in terms of school

if you were in kindergarden classes, they too would be easier but would the benefit you more?

of course not

the harder classes will prepare you better for life

the deciding factor to me is the fact that they bad mouth your mother.

No matter what they think about her it is inapporpiate of them to say those things about her where you can hear it.

no matter what that is still a part of you and it is disrepectful and childish of them to try to turn you against her

I wouldn't even wait til the end of the school year to leave that mess

Go to the place with the most tolerable bad stuff.

There is always going to be bad stuff everywhere you go and for all your life. You just have to learn to deal with it and become a stronger person because of it.

Seems to me if you go where most of your family and friends are, they could help you deal with the bad stuff.

You gave your dad a chance because you wanted to see if it would work out. If you can put up with it, ok, if you can't, then go back.

You are the only one that knows how you feel and and how others treat you.

You should tell your dad about how you feel. He is still adjusting to you living with him, and just hasn't gotten used to it yet. Give it a chance, time will tell. If you still feel this way after a year, go back. But just remember how many other relationships you may make in the next year with new people.

Go with your mom. Easy school leads to not as good education. The harder the school the more you will be prepared for life. As far as the rest of the pros with your father, they are cool because they are new the star dust will wear off as it gets old and won't look so special.