On Jan. 02, the love of my life died. How can I stop crying?

I am very sorry for your loss. It has only been a couple of days. Its normal to cry, and I would be more afraid for you if you didn't cry.

You are going though the grieving process.

Give yourself time. Don't rush through it. It is

normal. The first couple of weeks will be the hardest. Hang in there. If you need a shoulder

to cry on. Email me. My God be with you in your time of need.

Sweetie, I lost my grandmother a few years ago, her and I were close. Basically we were best friends. I mourned her loss with tears and sadness for about seven days. What you are feeling is normal, there is a time for mourning, and you are right in the middle of it. Surround yourself with things that remind you of him, and let all the sadness out. Your body/mind/soul needs to heal itself. As the days go by the pain will lessen, and you will recover from this wound. Just hang in there, and try to remember the good times. Take care hun' you may or may not think this at the time, but you have the strength to get through it, leaning on family is never a bad thing either.

I'm so sorry to hear that. Sadly, there's no magical recipe that will make you stop crying. Grief is a natural process. It will take you some time to get over it. You just need to accept that fact that this person is no longer here, and deal with it. Everything happens for a reason. Take your time, and then try to move on. I know you said he's the love of your life, yet life has to move on and this is what you need to do with your life. I think spending more time with your family and friends would be helpful.

Death is hard to get over. It will take a lot of time to heal. My mother died on a Jewish High Holy Day and I am Jewish. This was 10 years ago. The first 1/2 to 1 year I had trouble with her loss. Then I just started to remember the good things about her. The fun we had. I would talk to her about a beautiful sunrise or sunset. Then I would tell her about the two great grandchildren she never knew. I am not sure she hears me but I believe she does and it helps me a lot.

I'm so sorry! Please accept my deepest condoloences.

My best advice -- keep crying. This is the saddest time in your life, and it would be weird if you were not crying. Mourn. Don't try to numb your heart from the pain. Right now, your loved ones and friends want to support you. Take advantage of that and use this time to let out the agony in your heart. If you suppress it now, it will only prolong the grieving process and keep the healing from starting. Try not to be embarrassed by your tears -- it's normal, and all those people who are trying to "cheer you up" are deluding themselves. This is sort of counterintuitive, but think of it as "aiming for the bottom" -- getting to the lowest you can feel -- because once you reach that point (and it's awful, don't get me wrong), you can only go up from there.

My heart aches for you. I lost my Dad two years ago, and I cried for weeks. But it tapered off, and now I cry occasionally, usually when I visit him at the cemetery.

Take good care, and you're in my prayers.

I lost my Husband last August to cancer. We were married for 21-1/2 years. Don't stop the tears. Let them come. We each learn how to cope with the loss of a loved one. I still cry now. The pain is still there and won't be gone for a while. as the time has past I have learned to live with the pain and without having John here. This will probably sound hokey but I do feel his presence with me. And it gives me comfort. But I feel in my heart that I will be with him again when it comes for my time to cross over into the spirit world. I steadfastly hold on to that thought. E-mail me if you wish. I know how you feel. And I'd love to listen to whatever you need to say.

Oh sweetie, I'm so sorry. (((HUGE HUGS)))

You have to give yourself time to grieve. Each one of us handles grief in different ways. What you need to know is that there is nothing wrong with crying. It's better than bottling up your feelings.

Nobody can tell you that they know how you feel, because they don't. But what I can do is tell you how I felt. Like my heart had been ripped out. I felt angry, robbed, hurt and physically sick amongst other things.

You need to get some bereavement counselling. If you are from the UK, have a look here...

http://www.crusebereavementcare.org.uk/

They really did help me. I promise they will help you too.

Just remember to be kind to yourself, and take little baby steps. Thinking of you.

its good to cry. your showing your grief. but try to remember how much you were loved and how special it was to have such a perfect person to of shared that with. some people never get to feel that kind of passion. the best thing you can do is remember the special times and to talk to others about what you two had. remember what you were taught in that relationship and help others who are stuck in an unhappy relationship. talk to them about what they should have from the other person. be a spokes person to help out others to be happy. use your love you were shown to show others life is to short to be unhappy and to live for every minute of every day. find a friend who will listen,and share withhem the loss you feel. praying for you.

You don't stop crying until the grief process tells you it is time. You are hurting and crying helps express that pain. The sadness will gradually lessen in time and you will be able to move on. It has only been 3 days. You can't expect to stop crying and be over the pain. I promise you though you will stop crying eventually. Let the grief process complete itself and you will be alright.

Sally, I am so sorry for your loss. I can't say I understand how you feel, but I know your pain. I lost my father at 14. Please talk to a therapist to work through this. You will need time to heal your pain since this just happened. I know it feels like the end of the world to you, but you will have your life back again. Your loved one surely doesn't want you to suffer. I wish you the best and I hope you will find peace.