I don't understand!!?

people have an overwhelming compulsion to give their opinion, and this is way bigger than their desire to answer the question asked in the first place

I agree with most of the other answers. This is an open Q&A forum, therefore you'll get people's opinions along with their answer. I'm pretty guilty of doing it myself. I'm sure this person wasn't trying to offend you. It's just that sometimes people get on here and state what they're doing for a wedding and, to be honest, there are quite a lot of tacky ideas in this category (that doesn't mean to say your idea is tacky at all!).

I also agree with many of the other posters in that I agree with the person in your previous question. Honoring family members at weddings is perfectly fine. I've been to many weddings where parents and/or grandparents were honored by having red or white roses or pictures of loved ones in place of where they would've sat during the ceremony.

However, honoring relatives this way on what is supposed to be a happy occasion may not be the best idea. There's a could chance you'd end up with a few relatives crying. Perhaps you could use the rose idea, or you could have the person marrying you recognize that these people are watching the ceremony from heaven. Chocolate wedding favors that double as memorials probably aren't the best way to go...

I'd also like to add that I rarely give the whole "It's your day..." answer. If it's a question regarding how many attendants one should have or something like that where there's not really a rule, yes I'll give that answer. But when someone is asking about some outrageous and/or tacky theme they want to do for their day that would cost so much that it'd put most celebrities to shame, I give my opinion even if that person says "That's what I want, period". Sometimes it's good to get opinions on certain things. The person who answered your previous question simply gave his perspective on your idea for your wedding favors.

in answer to your question: because it is an open forum they can answer what they want and sometimes even if it isn't the answer you want to hear it can still be helpful. The point of posting these questions is to get other people's opinions no matter what they may be you have opened yourself up to that.

And I'm sorry but I actually agree with the person who did not like your favors Idea. What a downer! Mention in the ceremony, program, or speeches is plenty to remember those who could not be there. Your guests don't need to take that home with them.

One cool idea I have seen though is that each guest got a small card that said a donation was made in their name to a charity instead of a physical favor. Why don't you actually contribute to a cause and use the money you would have spent on chocolates and donate it to the cancer society.

This is your question:

why don't users answer the question asked?

My answer:

Because this is an open forum and people are free to give whatever response they feel fit for the entire story, not just the specific question asked.

If you post a question on here, you have to have a thick skin. You must be able to weed out the jerks and judgmental people. Out of 10 total answers, if you find 1 that fits your needs than "mission accomplished". Forget about all the other losers out there.

Side note: When judging how other people answer your question, I'd refrain from using phrases such as "unlike most others I did not ask silly questions ". It makes you look just as bad as those you are complaining about.

I'm sorry to hear about your parents, I hope you and your husband have a beautiful wedding and a happy and healthy life:)

Well, for one thing you are on an open forum, anyone can offer their opinions on your questions and possibly that poster offered up his opinion because he/she was concerned that you hadnt thought about your idea from a different angle.

Sorry to say this, but I actually agree with that post. If I opened the box and saw three cancer ribbons I am sure my face would fall and I would find it a bit of a downer.

EDIT:Hey a_woman, dont make such a broad generalization, I have personally never said the phrase "Its your wedding, do what you want" nor any variation of it as I dont think that answer is helpful at all. And I know alot of the longtime posters like me, feel the same way.

People don't answer your question because they choose not to. I didn't see your question or I would have answered it like I'm about to below. Don't judge people for what they ask on here. While I personally don't have the same questions I'm more than happy to tell someone what I think looks nice or that you can never make someone marry you. Don't think that just because you find your question rates higher than someone else's that people should flock to your question to answer it. Maybe they aren't sure what to say. You're trying to do a nice thing but it's awkward. If I'm not sure what to say then I'm less likely to answer.

I agree with the person who posted last to that question. If I were to go to a wedding I would feel a huge let down if I was reminded of something so sad. While it's nice to want to remember their struggle, it's not something I'd expect at a wedding. I would also feel bad eating the chocolates. Not that there's anything wrong with the candy itself but I don't want to eat something that is meant to represent someone's struggle through cancer. That's just my personal preference. Also, the wedding is supposed to be about you guys since it's your wedding. Maybe you could have a display of pictures on a table or something and include pictures of the people you tried to write about on your wedding favor tags. I personally find that a sweeter way to remember them.

I'm all for people doing what they want in a ceremony but if I find something particularly offensive or sad then I'll say so. In the end, we won't be there so it doesn't matter to us. The forum is here for those to answer as they'd wish. We aren't required to answer certain questions. Sorry you didn't get the response you wanted.

I did not answer your question, dear, because I wasn't able to...couldn't get past the fact that your wedding favors were not rememberances of the joyous day you two married, but a rememberance of cancer, which is always a tragedy.

We lost a very much loved family member to cancer...when each of my cousins (she was a fav aunt of ours) married they made mention of her in the wedding ceremony...how altho she had been tragically taken from us she surely was with us in spirit....to be reminded of how we were robbed of her (ovarian cancer) would have been very distressing.

Your question reminded me of that.....my personal opinion is your favors should be re-thought. But since you won't, then that is that however please be prepared for a lot of comments from your guests as I do fear they will be on the negative side....Good Luck with your wedding and I really do hope you have a happy celebration and a good marriage.

I think it is a beautiful idea. . .Many people just put a candle in the church to memorialize their loved ones, but you are taking it a step further in showing your guests a cause that you feel strongly for. Although I can not come with a nice saying for your favors I wish you all the luck in the world!

I honestly can believe what I am reading..... You people answering these questions are hypocrites!

I have seen countless times when someone askes "why cant I have this or that?" and YOU ALL respond with ITS YOUR DAY, DO WHAT YOU WANT! Well she is trying to do that !

But the first thing out of your mouths is .. what a downer???? I read questions all day long and I choose to answer the ones that I think I can help with... not give my opinion (UNLESS the questions states... what do you THINK) She didnt ask for an opinion! She asked for help and from what I can see everyone giving an opinion is NOT helping!

I personally find your choice of favors quite morose. I didn't even get what you asked, to be quite honest, and I also do not believe giving cancer ribbons of chocolate is appropriate for a wedding celebration.