Need help! How do I get my 5yo and 3yo girls to sleep in thier own beds.?

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I suppose they have individual beds. Make their beds in a way they like. Keep their toys in their beds. Keep their story books or pens or pencils they like on their beds. Make the beds in a way they like, by having theoir color for the bedspreads or pillow covers. Have a night lamp in a color that does not make them worry, like beige or off-white, if at all they get up during the night. Ask them when they want to go to sleep each night and when they want to get up each morning and what they want to have when they awake. Ask them how long Mom and Dad be with them each night and what stories they would like to hear. Ask their opinions about how they want their beds or the room to be done and all these, make them feel that it is their room and you are doing it for them, not you. Once they feel that they have their own things in the room or the beds and that they can have that warmth there also even though Mom and Dad are in another room, they will stay there. The need is to make them feel it is their own, it is for them and they will have their own things there.

I am sure you have overcome many more parenting challenges, this also you will get over soon. Hope this was helpful and you will soon come out of your current concerns. All the best..

This is why I would warn any parent against co-sleeping past 6 months. You will pay for it in the end. But what you can do is put the girls in there own room. Start off by staying in there until they fall asleep. Then slowly start leaving earlier and earlier. Do not let the girls back into your bed as that will defeat everything you are trying to do. This method can take about 2 weeks.

Are they in the same room together? if so, get them a TV and let them have a 1/2 hr of TV time before bed. Turn on their favorite movie. This usually works for my daughter (almost 4) and worked for my son (now 7) By the end of the 1/2 hour my daughter is usually asleep. Reward them in the morning when they have slept all night by themselves. Good Luck!

That is going to be tough since you have already allowed them to sleep with you. Changing the routine is a really hard thing to do. However, I do have a resource that worked wonders when my daughter threw fits suddenly at bed time. http://www.parentstoolshop.com/HTML/tips21.htm this one is specific to bedtime tantrums, but this website offers excellent advice on other topics as well. The first night we used it, it worked. Can't say that it will work that quick for you, but it's a good outline. Keep consistency 100% and you will be back to having your own bed for sure!

For the moment, try putting their beds in your room... if there's space. They might just be used to having you close. Then, when they start sleeping in the beds for a bit, move the beds to their room and let them know that you are just down the hall if they need you. It may take some time, but it will be worth it once they are sleeping in their own room. And get a nightlight and make sure they each have their own snuggly bear or something to hold while they're sleeping.

ha! ALMOST bothersome??? I hope you have a king size bed!!! lol. we just got my son(3) out of our bed because my daughter (1)was getting to realize that she was missing out on something. the only thing to do is to explain, they are both old enough, that your bed is yours and their bed is theirs. let them sleep together if they want, but EVERY time they come to your room, you need to get up (don't speak) and walk them to their bed.

After the first few days, you'll need to stop walking them to their beds and just tell them to go to bed. but start slow. It shouldn't be that bad because they are older.

Remember, STICK TO YOUR GUNS! every time you cave, you're adding another week or two of fighting

Maybe a reward bag type reward system? We had this issue with our daughters as well, I started putting them in thier bed and telling them who ever was asleep first got to pick something out of the reward bag.

I had a gift bag and filled it up with small trinkets, pens, little note pads, make up... little things they like.

It is hard at first but you might have to lock them in their rooms. My brother did that for his daughter until she understood that it was her room. He kept a baby monitor in there at night to check in on her but you have to do it. It is not being mean it is controling behavior. The more they kick and scream the more they will test you.

put your foot down and put them in their own bed. end of story.

I never understood why parents let children sleep in their beds. i never started in an my child doesnt miss it b/c she always had her own room/bed.

Live and learn but just tell it how its gonna be

Put them in it. Your'e the parent.