To have a Baby Shower or not??? What is proper....?

It is acceptable to have a baby shower the second time around when the baby is a different sex.

All etiquette aside though, when it comes to babies, I think EVERY pregnancy is a time to celebrate. It doesn't have to have anything to do with gifts, just a welcoming of a new little life!

I think it's okay to have as many baby showers as you would like, I know lots of people that have had more than one baby shower. A baby shower is to celebrate the fact that there is another person on the way! So why would you just celebrate one? Also the fact that this baby is a different sex than the last baby makes an even bigger reason to have another baby shower!

Well, yeah I don't think anyone would be upset by another shower for her. Maybe go about it a different way though, like tell people that their second hand items are preferred. Or one of my favorites, have them make some clothes and baby towels or burp rags at the shower with plain white onesies, or burp rags, and fabric markers. It really is a cute idea. Then the mom to be votes on the best ones.

Try to think of ideas where they don't feel like they are buying a bunch of expensive stuff again. Maybe ways to make some of the stuff she already has gender neutral. I don't know. Or tell them home made gifts would be good. A lot of people are crafty. Maybe someone can make curtains, and another person make a comforter, or wall decorations.

Another idea, is maybe find someone that has a lot of boy stuff and isn't having more babies. Get the more expensive boy stuff from them, maybe get a pool of money together to buy the stuff from them. Just throwing out ideas.

I think it is fine especially since this baby is a boy rather than a girl. I am sure that the people you are going to invite love and care about your sister and going to be fine with it and won't mind participating in this shower too or they wouldn't be one of those people. It is an opportunity to not only shower the mommy-to-be again with gifts but to celebrate what is to come and congratulate her. I think it is absolutely proper and you shouldn't worry about it so much!

Give her a "baby sprinkle" (google it). That's what most people do for kids after the first born. Since they already have a child and they probably don't need as much for this one, the idea is to "sprinkle" the baby with gifts instead of "showering" the baby.

I think you should give the baby shower or have a little get together, just buy her some things, and have a big party when the baby turns one

Emily Post (etiquette guru) would say that one shower is enough, and that no shower should be hosted by a family member.

However, both those rules seem to be a bit relaxed in current American culture. I am still of the one-shower-only opinion but I am originally from New York, and other areas of the country may do it differently.

Whether or not to have a baby shower is up to the people around her and whether or not they want to throw her one. I would think that having one is fine anyway since you said she's having a boy this time.

I don't think it's proper. Your friends and family already gave once. If your sister had given it any forethought, she would have registered for and/or chosen gender-neutral "equipment" (whatever that means). Apparently she didn't, and that's not your friends' and family's fault.

Only those who are very close to you will sign on to do this again. Everybody else will think you have some nerve for asking. Presumably most of them have children of their own to support.

I agree with the others who say it would be nice to get everyone together and celebrate the little one on the way, but having another shower primarily to solicit "boy" gifts is crass.

I am all for baby showers for each child, even if you aren't getting a bunch of gifts like you do for the first baby. It is still fun to get together.