What if you're not into rings and such?

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This forum talks about what people did instead of engagement rings. I know you don't do jewelry, so I don't know why some people are suggesting necklaces (that's just as annoying to put on).

I don't wear jewelry much, I just usually wear my engagement ring when I go out (if I remember) or if I just feel like putting it on around the house. Otherwise I just keep it in a jewelry box (my future in-laws gave it to me for this past christmas, since I once almost lost the ring...it's a family heirloom with a lot of sentimental value to fiance's mom).

Who knows, you might get attached to wearing the ring. I found myself sometimes missing how it feels on my finger when it wasn't there.

Sounds like you both need to sit down and have a talk about this now. You have some options as I see them:

1. Get a ring and maybe wear it (special occasions?)

2. Get another symbolic object together (house, car, pet, bible, whatever floats your boat)

3. Get nothing at all. It wasn't until the last century that diamond engagement rings became popular. They are literally the result of a marketing campaign.

No matter what, you both need to know how the other feels on this subject. Some people can be quite particular about it. good luck

Well my engagement gift was a SUV so I'm not going to insist you have a ring. Wedding bands are traditional but you can wear it on a chain, you guys can get bracelets instead. These days there are no hard and fast rules but I would talk to him about it because if he buys you a ring and you stick in a box, he will probably be hurt.

Wedding rings are not needed to complete your vows. A lot of folks do not wear wedding rings, I just did a wedding where the couple exchanged Ear Rings, one each for their wedding jewelry. If he wants to get you a ring, and he knows how you feel about wearing it, hey a safe place is one choice, another would be get it framed with your wedding license. At any rate, a ring just is not necessary, what is, are the vows you will be promising to each other. Blessings to you, Chaplain Debby

If he knows you are not into wearing rings he may buy a necklace or something to symbolize your engagement. If you really don't think you would ever wear it just tell him nicely that it is a nice thought however it woudl be a waste of his money to buy it. There is no law that says you have to wear an engagement or wedding ring if you don't want to.

Well if your boyfriend is going to propose he knows you well enough to know that rings aren't your thin, so don't jump the gun and see what he does if in fact he does give you a ring then wear that until the wedding and put it on a necklace.... The marriage is between you and him and as long as you are committed to each other then no ring or necklace really matter.....................

Congratulations ahead of time.. keep us posted

Nobody says you have to wear a ring to be engaged or married. My husband HATES jewelry and has never worn his ring except on our wedding day.

They are just symbols. But get them anyway to have as part of the ceremony. Wear them for special occasions if you like. (I only wear mine when I go somewhere special too). It will be nice to have something to pass down to your children too.

Best wishes!

Talk to him about it, and see if you can't come up with an alternative. Some guys are funny about the symbol of the engagement/wedding band, so he might be offended if you don't want to wear a ring.

I was the same as you - but it's TOTALLY different with an engagement ring and wedding band. I never thought I'd get used to it, but I did and love wearing them. You'll find that you want to wear them proudly!

i never wear any jewelry, but i always wear my engagement ring and wedding band. you might surprise yourself and actually wear them since they mean so much. if you have a say, ask for something very small with a thin band.