Why do men always have to procrastinate?

I was just complaining to my husband yesterday about this.. lol Not all men though.. My grandfather or my father-in-law is not like that at all.. So I'm so confused on how my husband isn't like his father... Do what I do.. I do it myself.. Go to the basement start pounding on stuff.. lol I always say I don't need a man to do it.. Which honestly I don't.. But if you want it done start doing it yourself.. And if it's not right he's going to have to.. I'm still waiting for him to put my bathroom sink in that we have had since October.. So I said I was going to do it yesterday and started pulling all the stuff out and then he called his dad and said will you come and help me do this next weekend.. :) They wonder why we nag.. If they just do it and there won't be no nagging... Well good luck to you.. Just go down there and try until he gets fed up and he does it... :)

Not all men are like that. Also, some women are like that too. I know of one woman who is the worlds champ at procrastination. I am serious. And I know of a certain man who comes in second best. hehehe.......It must be a habit or plain laziness I reckon. I bet if you were to start to lug that dryer toward the basement while he was watching, he would have done it right then. Really. Because a man does not like to see a woman out perform them. Doesn't mean that he would stop procrastinating, but it would make a good story eh? hehehe Oh, and about the " procrastodad", that is funny as can be.....Actually, I think that we all do this to some extent. I know that I am guilty of doing that when I know that it's a hard or tough project or task that I really don't want to do even if it is a job or task that really is important. But small things and easy things I do quite promptly....(smile)

I have the same problem and it has caused a great deal of resentment on my part. It bothers me the most when I feel unappreciated for all I do. The last incident, I asked a similar question at this site. I got lots of good advice, and decided to act indiferently toward him and do as little for him as possible. He was mad for 3 days, but then on his own came around, mopped the kitchen and brought me flowers. He stated that the next time he had an off day, I could make a list of 3 things for him to do and he would do them, then do what he wanted. He then said maybe he'd do this?! I don't think he will change much, but at lease when I quit being his doormat, he seems to be trying. We'll see if this continues, I hope it will. I think many men are like this..I'd like to know why also.

You're not an exception! But don't take it bad... Stop asking so many times and wait to see his reaction... For example: Considering that you bought a dryer his clothes would be "wet" in case he did not have the new one hooked up!! Soooooo, you should let him find out that he would be very much affected in case he did not have things done! He may pretend not to notice for some days or even weeks but one day he will notice / he will need his dry clothes! Let him notice that on his own! Just don't do what you cannot do or more than you can do...

All men are like this. I so wish I was a lesbian some times! I figure a girl would aways put away the tools after she fixed something.

Maybe leave out an ad or number for a handyman - his cheapness and macho instincts will get him to fix whatever needs fixing before a professional can come to the house - no man likes to be shown up at a "manly" task in their own home.

Yes they can be... but I can't say much myself as I am known as "The Procrastination Queen" in my family. Sometimes watching tv is a bit more interesting...lol All jokes aside, give hime a deadline... but remember he is you husband not your slave. And if it isn't done tell him you are going to pay someone to do it. Maybe his feelings will change when cash has to be dished out for something that could have been done free. Like one of the others said (but i mean it in a nice way...lol) try it yourself. Its a great feeling to know that you did something on your own and your really not helpless. Heck, I just put shelves up in my furnace room yesterday... and i think i did a damn good job. It may be frurstrating... but you love him (or you wouldn't be with him) don't let it get to your marriage. Try taking all the laundry to the Laundrymat except his...lol when he has no clothes maybe you will get your way...

Because they are intensely busy doing something that they usually think is what we want. We get irritated for them not doing 1 thing and they go and try to do EVERYthing they can think of to fix it. (Got irritated w/hubby for not taking out the trash and he started fixing the sink in the bathroom that no one uses) Most of the time they mean well it just doesn't come out that way. I just tell mine "Honey instead of doing *insert task here* can you do this?" Or I'll tell him Ya know I'd get done a lot faster and we can go *insert task here* if you help. Usually it works

My sister's hubby was the same way and I emphasize WAS. She gave him ample opportunity to finish projects or hook up appliances, etc. If it went more than a weekend, then she would call someone and hire them to complete her husband's task. She only had to hire someone twice before her hubby got the message that it was cheaper for him to finish the projects quickly.

Good luck!

I don't know but I finally figured them out and dont expect much anymore I spent years of trying to figure them out and now I have a son who is a teenager and I love him dearly and he loves me we are best friends and I watch him and how he acts and only then did I realize how much time I wasted all those years trying to figure men out.

My son is a typical man procrastinater, laid back. sits in front of tv, the only time I can get his attention is if I cry.

Oh and might I ask non emotional.

So thank god I finally got it all right it is not me men well men are men and women are women.

Men are like that because its their nature. I believe that at least the majority of men are like that. I have a husband that does that all the time. I am still waiting for him to fix the garage door. He was going to do it in september when the weather was good now its almost February.. looks like i wont get it done till spring...sigh!!!!!