Why wont people get this?

Honey, that's exactly what I did for my second wedding..instead I had 20 people, I ordered deli platters, cheese platters, rolls,veggie and fruit platters..made my own salads..got mini italian pastries to go with the beautiful wedding cake my second oldest made ( I'm a retired baker & she learned cake decorating in my bakery), had chips & dips, soda, juices and booze...hit my local party store for disposable everything-plates, bowels, napkins,utensils cups both hot & cold,table cloths, even champagne flutes and high ball 'glasses'......

just keep it simple and follow your lists...you'll be fine....and you'll have fun doing it..I did!..and buffet is def the way to go!

I can see where they are coming from - They want you to enjoy your wedding rather than running around cooking - and I can see where you are coming from - DIY is much cheaper and just as yummy!

Even with the heat and serve you will be very busy. I am not saying get a caterer, but consider doing platters that don't need heating (ie all the work can be done the day before) or employing one person (or allocating a family member) to do all the hot food for you. It sounds like you already have some support so do what you want and laugh at all the complainers when they tell you how nice the food was.

Being an art teacher, I'm not to thrilled about the answers that many people have written here. But if you want to be an artist or anything for that matter why does the opinion of another person matter? Finding out what you want to be is a personal goal and shouldn't be influenced by anyone except you and your family. If your teacher made a judgement that your sense of the beautiful is challenged then that is an opinion. Vincent Van Gogh was not considered a very good artist when he began to work and he never thought that he had any talent. But that never stopped him from trying.

I don't think this is weird or wrong at all. However, you need to remember that the week before your wedding you are going to have a lot of loose ends that you will have to tie up, and you will be very busy. Your family is probably just concerned and doesn't want you to be overloaded so close to your special day. One option is to cook or fix as much as you can ahead of time, in the days before your wedding. Then you can have you sister and niece heat up anything that needs to be heated and get everything set up for serving before the reception.

It is your wedding and you should have it the way you want it. If this is what you want then go for it. Just try to make it as easy as possible on yourself!

Congratulations and good luck!

Hi and congratulations!

I totally agree that you will save loads of money and have MORE food by doing it yourself. Good for you.

I only have once concern....I know I am probably sounding like your family.....is the presentation.

If you can hire a couple of college girls (church ladies?) or anyone to help you out, I think that would be an idea. You don't want to be worried on your wedding day of making sure you have a serving spoon for the dip....and what about restocking the punch bowl? You get it.

If you have people that are willing to put the food out and keep the beverages stocked and such, then I say....go for it!

Your main concern on your wedding is to enjoy yourself and to chat with your guests....not to worry that the food needs to be replenished.

Good luck! It sounds fun!

it will be quite a task but as you said it is your second wedding and you don't want the whole "shebang". If all the food can be prepared ahead of time (say the day or two before) and you can rely on a few people (maybe your sister and your niece?) to do the reheating so you can be mingling with your guests i don't see how this isn't feasible.

one of my very best friends had a similar problem, her family members wouldn't relax and trust her instincts that her home-catered wedding WOULD turn out. As she assumed (and as you probably assume as well) it was a truly lovely experience, and was one of my favorite weddings i've been to.

I completely support your decision. Maybe if you explain to your family members that all of your responsibilities concerning the food,etc. will be completed before the day of the wedding so that you will be able to relax and enjoy your experience, they will lighten up.

best of luck, and congratulations!

if you are having a wedding after lunch and before dinner I would not have alot of food if any. I have been to several wedding at this time of day and later in evening. and different deserts were served and it was wonderful, the one thing that goes great with deserts is different cheeses and fresh fruit. (it's a thought)

I would also not recommend you the bride doing the work you are talking about, 2nd wedding or not. you need to enjoy your day not worry about food and getting it all done I must agree with family, hire someone or have family do it.

good luck

No, it's not weird at all. That is exactly what I was going to do but we've completely changed everything now and are having the ceremony and reception at a restaurant. But, I was going to have it in the backyard and I was going to do finger foods too. I love it. You'll obviously have a lot going on that day but if you have people to help with food pick up and preparation, then I don't see the problem. It's not like you're going to be driving round town picking up food in your wedding dress! Ha ha!

They just need to back off. People get so freakin' bizarre when you're trying to plan something. But at least you have people trying to give you advice too. Nobody (except for my Mom) asks me ANYTHING! I had to shove my invitation choices in everyone's face during half time on Superbowl. LOL! People just roll their eyes at me. Good luck and have fun!

I have a friend going through the same thing. She is getting married in August and wants to cater her own wedding. She's just planning on having a taco bar, which sounds fun to me. But people keep telling her she won't want to do the cooking for her own wedding. But she loves to cook and wants to do it.

I think with any wedding planning people are going to put their noses in where they don't belong and people always want to give their input... it's annoying!!!

People are right. You are taking on too much.

We are having family members make all our food but as the bride YOU should not be part of the catering. Trust me honey, you'll have enough to do that day. It's OK if you want to make a few appetizers the week before to freeze for your designated ladies to heat for you but the day of the wedding you shouldn't be involved in the food at all.

Wedding day will be enough of a blur as it is....don't add to your workload.