Garter toss??

I did the exact same thing for my bouquet toss- we just skipped the garter altogether. Unless you really feel like you have to have it, just skip it- I doubt anyone will miss it!

It also made it easier for me to get women to come up for the bouquet- the main reason no one likes doing that is because of the garter part of the process. No garter= no fear!

Play the garter toss by ear. If there are going to be a lot of single males at the wedding (10 or more) and most of them are his friends, you gotta toss them a bone, here. Especially since most single ladies at weddings will typically have a boyfriend. Single guys know that it's not a "Vince Vaughn and Owen Wilson" thing at weddings, so you gotta give them at least a minute of strutting to the Peter Gunn theme and ZZ Top's "Legs." (especially if it isn't an open bar)

Here's the compromise: slip the garter below the knee beforehand, then just hold the hem of the dress so all anybody can see is the leg. Of course, the single males will likely shout "TEETH! TEETH!" Since you're holding the hem, his head won't go up your skirt, and the ceremony can be done in semi-taste. Very few weddings have the single guy put the garter on the woman who caught the bouquet anymore; they just take a picture together.

We aren't even doing a bouquet or garter toss. I want my bouquet preserved since they can be a bit expensive, I am not willing to toss it and then have it be thrown away. I also don't want to waste the money on a bouquet I can toss, again, it'll be thrown away anyways. We are chosing to spend more on the 'party' than on some of the traditional stuff. As far as the garter toss, I agree, can be fun, but tacky and I would feel uncomfortable like that in front of family. So we just decided not to do either. It's your choice though!

Good for you! The single-women-only bouquet toss is humiliating, and the garter-diving up the bride's skirt is so tacky! My brother's wedding scarred me on that for life.

I agree with the suggestion to put it under your knee, if you do it at all. Then you don't have to hoist your skirt up so far. Or, what if you fashioned a garter/choker so that it (just for a few minutes) could be worn around your neck?

Or how about, tell everyone that it's time for the garter toss. Then you and your groom head off behind a curtain or one of those folding screens... Return with the garter in his hand!

Congratulations!

I have seen this at alot of weddings I guest it is more of a puerto rican thing and it would bother me now because I am married and he should not be up there trying to catch the garter but that is why they ask all the single people to go up just for that reason I don't think he should have gone up if you guys feel some type of way. And yes i attended a wedding with a boyfriend and he caught the garter and I didn't catch the bouquet and I was cheering him on with the crowd and when it was over he was all red in the face and just gave me a big kiss. He came to me and left with me big deal

At one wedding I attended the groom acted like he was going to go under the bride's skirt for the garter, then at the last second grabbed the hair scrunchie she had on her wrist and tossed that. It was funny because the bride didn't expect it - they had agreed not to do the garter toss, and when it seemed he was about to go under her skirt she looked ready to kill him. When he grabbed her scruchie instead everyone laughed.

You probably won't have a hair scrunchie on your wrist, but maybe you could do something similiar with an inexpensive bracelet or something from your hair that can be removed without destroying the hair style.

we never did the garter thing w/ where guys put the garter on the girl,

but we did do the husband removing the garter from the wife... b/c our families encouraged it and cheered it on!!!

but you could alternatively just not do the garter thing at all, but rather have a tossing one hit somewhere and not having his head up your skirt... i agree i do like like watching this part really, however, out families wanted to do it to embarass us!!!

maybe do a google search for variations... i can't think of anything other than maybe having the guy toss your boquet and you toss your own garter... LOL

I've been to a wedding where instead of a garter toss they just had the bride dance with all the single men. It was really cute they all got in a circle and she danced with all of them.

Or if you still want to throw the garter just throw it would you the husband taking it off. have one set aside for the toss.

Here's a couple of options...

- Have all the married men stand up, and then have them sit down until the one who has been married the longest is left standing & give the garter to him

- Attach the garter to a teddy bear dressed as a bride and toss that

- Slide your garter to your ankle when you sit down and have your groom remove it from there, that way he doesn't end up with his head under your skirt

Hehehe, I like the last response about making it a little show. I like the other person will probably do it but have it around the bottom of my leg and I'll just pull my skirt up a little so he can get it. Talk to your groom before hand and say you don't want him biting it or anything or you'll kick him, lol! You can just skip it too, it's really not a big deal.