Is anyone else overwhelmed with planning their wedding? And afraid of the soaring costs?

LOL - just had a 'freak out' about all of it last night with my fiance!

Every once in a while, it all just seems like too much! Especially when you're paying for everything yourselves, and it seems like there is no end in sight!

I sometimes feel like my fiance expects me to be our 'planner' - that I am responsible for all the research, and that he expects me to just present him with all the options, and let him choose... Bah!

And, I'm struggling with how I'm supposed to include all of the parents who want to help (mine are divorced, so there are 3 sets of parents) and everyone who wants something a certain way. I know we're all supposed to say "Hey, back off! It's my wedding!" But that's always easier said than done!

Anyway, the answer is yes...I'm with you, and for the first time last night, seriously considered eloping and forgetting about the 280 guests that we're supposed to be throwing a huge party for!

Good luck!

Yes!

we had originally planned to have the wedding in April, after going to bridal fairs and talking with people from reception areas to photographers we figured that August is to close of a date, so we moved it to next May--a year away, and I am still stressed out. My fiance and I don't have too much money to go towards the wedding and our families don't either so I am trying to come up with a cheaper version of my dream wedding--have it outside to avoid church costs (depending on when your wedding is), get a wedding gown at discounted prices or even second hand (you only wear it once!) make sure your bridesmaids understand that they will pay for their own attire, don't invite too many guests that way you have less people to feed--if you must have a celebration with everyone perhaps you or a friend can organize a BBQ or something to celebrate with those who were not invited...etc..good luck!

I keep saying the same thing to my fiance. We cant afford this, or im not sure I want to spend this much money on this when it'd be a wonderful down payment on a house. Were both very picky and hes been more than amazing with adding his thoughts and helping with planning. I have had a while to pick everything out and look for similar but cheaper items. I think ive cut the cost down to 10,000 dollars. My only issue (since i went to schoolf or some photography) is my photographer I fell in love with is 4500 of that. but weve cut other costs and found ways around it, and he wont let me choose a different photographer because Ive made him fall in love with the work also. He keeps telling me the pictures are going to be the only thing we get to look at from the day in 50 years, we might as well spend a lot on that.

Ive been stressing, and his mom whose in debt like crazy keeps sayign if you need help tell me, ill help you guys buy stuff. Her boyfriend says the same thing but were doing it on our own becuase I cant take theirs.

Ive got over a year and im still counting down to the honeymoon.

Congrats and dont stress to much, itll all work out in the end.

If you are overwhelmed, you really should elicit help from anyone willing to help you. Have your parents, MOH, or BMs helps as much as they can. And don't forget about the groom, this is his wedding, too!

As far as the soaring costs - you can prevent that by not going overboard on your spending. Look for ways to cut costs. Are you having a sit down or buffet meal? Maybe just do an appetizer reception instead. Is your photographer cost out of control? Have them do the "minimum" posed pictures and then get those disposable cameras for each table and let your guests take the spontaneous shots. Have artificial flowers for some of your flowers instead of real.

Do the invitations/programs/RSVP cards/thank you cards and placecards all yourself. We did using our own printer. I even made the color of the ink on the invitations match a floral design on the outer wrap. We used this site to get our products http://www.invitationpaper.com/products.html They will even send you samples to see if their paper works in your printer (for a nominal fee). It cost us under $100 for everything (50 invitations and 100 cards I used for the place cards/RSVP cardfs/thank you cards and 50 sheets for programs.

I'm sure there are many other ways, that's all I can think of off the top of my head. I hope this has helped.

Try to relax... and Congrats on your upcoming nuptials!

Those little things definitely do add up. Just set a budget and stick to it. Here's a site with some good money saving tips: http://www.weddingsecrets.com/

If you are getting overwhelmed with the planning, you really should consider hiring a wedding planner. They will take the stress away and can even end up saving you money in the long run.

Overall, I haven't found it too stressful. Although the past few days have been stressful. We had to make a quick deposit on a photographer to hold who we wanted. It felt a bit rushed to me, but I wanted to make sure we got someone with a good reputation.

So, lately, yes, a little overwhelmed and annoyed by the soaring costs...

YES! YES! YES! My Boyfriend and I got engaged and he just wants to get married. I have never been married and would like to have a wedding. This is really ironic cause I was just getting on to get different ideas for a wedding. Then I thought about the kind of responses I would get, and the cost!

I hired a wedding planner, thank goodness, who has done a marvelous job of relieving the stress and keeping the budget under control. That was the best money I ever spent.

It is scary, true...

Remember two things. The most important part of your Wedding day is the ceremony where you are joined as man and wife for all your days to come.

Second, it is a party your planning...If you worry too much about making "Perfect" you will spend too much. If you only worry about making sure all the people you want to share this wonderful day with you, it is easier to keep cost low.

Don't postponed this most wonderful beginning...Try to enjoy it.

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If it's too much, ask your fiance to take it a little bit slower for you. They should understand, and the Wedding has to be perfect, so put some time into it and make it perfect.. It is stressful though.