Are you glad you're adopted?

You should be glad you are adopted you have no way to know how horrible your life could have been. some adoptees on here have no clue that not all of us are ins some sort of great trama every day. HELLOOOOOOOOOOOO! My mother isn't LOST she gave me away. I'm not some sort of hansle and gretal wandering in the forest. SHe gave me a save place.

Sunny dude, how can I join this awesome little army?

Knowing what I know about my first mother (biofather was out of the picture) - and given the time period (1950s) I would say it was better that I was adopted.

I've had three mothers. My first mother, my adoptive mother who raised me and died when I was 24, and my stepmom who has been close for the past 30 years - she's my kid's grandma, she was "there" for me during my divorce, starting a new career, singlehood, remarriage....

You don't feel the need to pick one sibling of many to be your "real" sister or brother - pick one, pick none, pick some, pick all.

If you have one or more wonderful mothers - it doesn't matter how they came to be your mother - they are all "real". Most biokids don't get a chance to make any comparisons.

We can never go back - what's done is done.

My adoption didn't 'need' to happen - and I wasn't allowed to know my mother, my father, my 3 full-siblings, my 1 half sibling, my extended bio family.

I love my adoptive family - but I wish that I was allowed to know my bio family - instead of having to search for them when I was 35 years old.

My first mother is a complete mess now - years of not being allowed to grieve & the way her mother & the system treated her have taken a huge toll on her psych.

Would she be this way if things had happened differently??

I don't think so.

I am sad for the losses. It's only now that I have found people that look and act - just like me.

Now I don't feel like such a freak.

Now - I'm finally being able to find out about me - and I personally needed knowledge of my past - together with the life that I lived - to fully work that out.

You seem a little stirred that others feel differently to you - is this really a problem??

You are entitled to feel however you feel.

Please don't negate the feelings of others - for the life that they lived.

I wish you all the very best.

I do think that a lot of times questions regarding how one "feels" about being adopted are far too simplistic, considering how complex adoption is.

However, I will try to answer in a very general manner. What I really believe is "right" is for people to be able to properly raise their own children. So, I guess what I believe is "right" would be a perfect world, where everyone would be able and willing to do this.

The fact that I love my amom and she was always a "real" mom to me doesn't negate the complexities of adoption. It doesn't negate that my natural parents are "real" parents, too. They are all parents who have had different roles in my life. I have a wonderful reunion and am very happy to have my adad in my life. Is he a necessary part of my life? For conception purposes, yes. In order for me to survive now? No, but neither was the particular woman who became my amom, if phrased the way you've phrased it here. After all, someone else could have picked up the role and been my amother, and possibly have been very good at it. Heck, the particular man who become my husband is not necessary, either, then according to this thinking. Some other man could have become my husband. Do you see where this goes?

I'm not into this idea of people "replacing" one another. These people are all my family. They all have a role in my life that means something to me. None of them can be replaced.

I'm ok with being adopted but I am sad that I was relinquished in the first place. It is hard to think that I started my life being thought of shamefully or as a problem. Especially since I am such an all around fabulous person now.

Yes, yes, yes - glad to be reunited with my bmom, glad I know my roots, but more than anything glad to have been adopted and raised by my parents. I know others feel differently, and we should all be able to feel what we feel, but I am thrilled to have been adopted.

What I wish is that my adopted parents had been my parents

No I wish I had never been adopted.

I don't like being adopted

I dot like what its done to my psyche

I have a massive family and I have been denied them

But I would not have wanted not to have been with my adoptive parents either because i love them so very much.

I HATE Being adopted. I just hate what it does to me as a person and all the issues it causes for me

My best friend was adopted. She feels weird sometimes because she is black and her parents are white and people look at them like they arnt a real family. When she was 13 she met her real mom and regreted it. She was a dope head who just wanted money and stuff. She is really happy she got adopted cause her parents have given her and her sister a good life they wouldnt have gotten other wise. =]

I dont know how to really answer this. I am glad that I have the parents I have today.

As far as glad about being adopted, I wouldnt have known either way what my life was going to be like, mainly because I was a baby when I was adopted. Life has corners and twisty turns, so you never really know whats going to happen, nor can you stop whats going to happen.

I had and have a great life. I couldnt ask for better parents and why I was adopted doesnt interest me anymore. I am reunited with both bios and have an aquaintence with them. That does me just fine. We all know where we stand.

I dont hate being adopted, I dont regret being adopted. In fact Im glad and grateful that Im adopted. What I regret is that I, as an adult, allowed myself to be reunited with my biological family. I am glad I met my mother, I am glad I now have medical information which has saved my life. I wish I had never met and gotten to know my siblings and extended family though. It isnt genetics but environment and day to day influences that determine who you are. That is something that I thank the powers that be for, every day of my life.

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Yet again thumbs down for making a statement about how I feel about MY LIFE! Im not talking about your life ffs, but mine!

Yes and no. I don't like being constantly asked if life was good with my adoptive parents. What does it matter? I am denied my rights as an American. An American who has fought for these agencies rights and my natural mothers rights. I can't have mine. This is where the no comes in. Society treats me as property of my adoptive parents. Here I am a fourty two year old woman. Adoption ain't the happy happy thing for me.