Should we have a destination wedding?

I guess what you need to ask yourself is: "Is will it bother me if I don't have my extended family and friends with me on my actual wedding day?" I think destination weddings can be so beautiful but will you regret not having everyone with you on your big day and ok just celebrating with them when you get back? I think it is a very personal thing....really depends on how YOU feel. If it isn't going to bother you, not having the extended family/friends with you on your actual wedding day, then I'd say go for it and have a great time in Mexico!

My BF wanted to do the desitination but they decided not to because of this reason: They felt they were telling people where they were to vacation and how they spent their money that year. They felt very rude and uncomfortable with making people use their time and money for one day in their life. And also that people would do it begrudgingly because it was their wedding and not just another day. So they decided on doing a wedding at a place around where they lived, I dont think they could have been happier with the way everything turned out. And afterwards I asked if they had been sad that they hadnt gone to the Keys to get married as they originally planned. They both said that they were so much happier that they had the "big" wedding, they were able to share with EVERYBODY instead of just a select few. And it actually surpassed my sisters wedding (which had sat atop my top 10 weddings list for 12 years), I dont think it would have been as special a day if she had gone away. Good luck with your decision.

Don't feel like you have to top everyone else's weddings. Have the kind of wedding you would like. You can have a really simple wedding at home, outdoors at night with tons of candles. People will think it's a beautiful and simple thing you've done and won't look at everything you don't have. If you are going to always regret not getting married in front of all your friends and family, it's not worth going to Mexico.

Hi. Why not just have a more casual laid back reception from the get go? I don't understand if you have a reception when you get home....it's still a reception! So, why not just make it casual in the first place? DON'T try to impress people. That is the wrong idea of a wedding reception. Just be yourself and everyone will be happy for you and happy to be included in your celebration...no need to try to impress people.

Go for it! Surprisingly, most people would rather not attend the wedding anyway. Ever noticed how many more people just go to the reception then the wedding? I think it's a great idea and am doing the same thing for the same reasons you are thinking about it!

I think a destination is a great idea! I am doing that too. Every couple that i talk to who had a huge reception tells me that if they could re do it, they would just have a simple ceremony with a few close friends. In short, its not worth the money. One of my friends who just got married said she was so worried about the details, she couldnt concentrate walking down the aisle and really doesnt remember the ceremony. Good luck

I'm facing the same decision ...just a small wedding with par tent siblings and 34 friends . And one party when we get back I think Its a great Idea!! Just make sure you have it taped or use pics for a slide show so the othe guests can see the wedding

You will have some relatives that are upset they didn't get to see the actual wedding. And for the immediate family that does go may feel that on top of spending all that money just to see your wedding, and they won't really feel like their enjoying themselves. I say have the wedding with ALL your family and friends and do the honeymoon in Mexico.

Sounds good to me! Talk with your immediate family and see what they think...if they can afford to fly to Mexico.

Sounds like an amazing plan!! If I could afford it, I would so do it that way!