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Why do people always insist you can't love 2 people at once?

I've seen a number of questions where people have said they think they love 2 people, or something to that effect.

Every time that happens, there are a load of people saying that it's not possible, that they don't love either, or it's just infatuation.

Yet we happily accept that a person can love their husband and child at the same time, or 2 children. Why is it that loving 2 people romantically is not possible?

I'm not looking for people to give me answers citing morality, as that doesn't prove it's not possible, it just goes to right/wrong.

I have at one time loved 2 people romantically, and it was a confusing time. Does anyone else have a similar experience to share?

Update:

It seems that this question boils down to a "simpler" on, and that is "What is love?" or what is the definition of romantic love?

I'm starting to wonder if this question should be in the philosophy section...

Update 2:

The type of love I am talking about here is the type involving deep emotions, from the heart. I call it romantic love, others call it emotional. I'm not talking about sex here, it's completely alien to my thoughts on this.

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  • 1 decade ago
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    Up until the point of realizing you want to spend the rest of your life with the person, it's very possible that it can happen. However, when it gets to that point, I think your love for one would take away from your love for the other. With that happening, it could ruin both indefinitely. I know everybody feels it's "taboo" to love two people when it comes to romantic love, but it is definitely something that should be thought about. If you'd like to talk about the concept to have another mind to discuss it with, feel free to contact me.

    Heath

  • Grrr!
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago

    It is possible to love two people romantically on a short term basis, but it's nothing that will last a lifetime. Either by your choice or theirs, sooner or later one of them will have to go. Also, I think it's important to know that loving someone romantically, (just sex is really all it is) and loving someone romantically and EMOTIONALLY (as a husband and wife does) are two totally different things. The difference being that anyone can romance another because romance is a skill, but emotions are coming from the heart!

  • 1 decade ago

    The love of husband and child are two different types of love. That's why is so easly to love them both. Theirs the love of a relationship and trust, romantic love which is husband. The love of a child, which is care and parental bond.

    I don't think it's possible to love two people romantically at once, i think their can be confusion between those two love, theirs lust and love. It's so easy to think you love someone, but the actual word is more powerful than that, and sharing that powerful love can't simply be devided in two. Here's a good example, having a guy best friend that cares for you, watches over you and is there when you need them, his love can often be confused by the one of a boyfriend.

    Wanting to be intimate with two people at once doesn't mean you love them, maybe theirs certain things you love about each one of them that makes you think you do. I believe true love is hard if not almost impossible to find, and once you find it you wouldn't ask people if they've experienced it or loved more than one person.

    Once your inlove you know it, and theirs no questions in your mind or confusion. I met someone that told me she fell in love with all of her boyfriends, she had 8 exes and each one of them was her love. I think alot of people are inlove with "LOVE" what it represents, the action. That may be the confusing part.

  • 1 decade ago

    You can love as many people as you want.

    To actually be in love with a person is another.

    You didn't love 2 people at the same time. You made love to two people at the same time big difference.

    Child you love them both but love for children is not the same as love for husbands.

    There is different levels of love.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    you can think you love as many people as you want , but if you truly love someone you would turn down the sexiest girl in the world for her because you love her and no one should compare.i supposes everyone is different and there is no textbook for 'falling in love' but i really dont think you can love two people properly at the same time, maybe you love one but just fancy the other or like being with them, but you dont love them both.

  • Rick
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago

    You are right. It's possible to love more than one person at a time. It doesn't happen all that often, but it does occur occasionally.

  • 1 decade ago

    i personally thought that it's impossible as well. until my best friend shared her problems with me.

    now i do feel it's possible. but we should not allow ourselves to get to that stage whereby we find ourselves loving two people at the same time and dont know who to give up on. it's a horrible experience.

    if you have the time to spare, do help me out too.

    http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=ApDY9...

  • 1 decade ago

    Hell i love more than 2 people.

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