Anyone else ever want to scare the crap out of a bully?

My son and the next door neighbor played together all the time. The other boy was very very rough. He gave my son a head wound that required stitches, a rope burn that ran from his left shoulder to his right hip, various bruises. His mother would tell him, "Now honey, I know you're angry but can't we try to be nice?". He would scream no and run away. Finally after one of the injuries, I think it was the rope burn, I went to their front door with my son and asked to see her son. When he came to the door, I got down eye to eye with him and said " Bobby, I don't allow Timmy to hit back, but I can- and if you hurt him again, I am going to tear into you". His mother grabbed him away and sent him to the back of the house, and I told her I was serious, took my son and went home. Both boys are grown up now, and are bright successful young men.

In today's world, I would have to call the police and tell them that I want them to go to the house with me so I have a witness when I tell the woman to call her kid off or I will have the juvenile authorities deal with him.

Keep in mind, my son wanted to go back and play with him before we even got back to our house. Kids forget quickly-they remained friends through college.

I know exactly how you feel. I'm much older than you, but had a similar experience. I did drop out of high school my sophomore year and really regret it so much. I did get my GED the same year my peers were graduating from high school. I had problems at home and at school so dropped out. If I were you, I would focus on your school work if at all possible. Do you have a friend or two there? I was very shy and quiet and really didn't have many friends, but had a few. Can you learn a musical instrument to be in the marching band? That is what 2 of my older siblings did. It helped them to fit in with a small group. They were not the most popular, but it helped them tremendously. If music is not your thing, try another activity or club or clubs to join in school to get to know people. I ran from school because I didn't fit in, but when you grow up you get a job and feel the need to fit in there too. I would stick it out the best you can. Why not join a speaking group or drama club? I know you have talents, you just need to discover them I'm sorry you are having a hard time. After all these years, I am bullied at work and excluded. Good luck. Love yourself.

Don't let the bully scare you or your child away. If he tries to hit your kid, stand between them, look him dead in the eyes, and say, "You do NOT hit my child." If he hits you, call the cops. I know it may sound extreme, but it's in order if Mom isn't stopping her kid from beating yours. That will also scare him.

We recently had a bully incident in my son's nursery class. The child is only 4, but used to hit, push, and kick other (and often younger) kids for no reason. The mother would just laugh and joke about how tough her kid is. I was really ready to pick up the child and remove him from the group. Well, my son took care of that. After shoving my son, my son yelled at the kid and told him to leave him alone and stop hitting. When the same child attacked my son's friend, my son grabbed the kid by the collar and backhanded him right across the face. Of course, I disciplined my son for hitting; I don't raise him to go around using his fists to solve problems. However, he was doing it in defense of a friend and against a known bully whose mom won't do anything about it. The child has been picking on kids since we met him 6 months ago, and his mom seems to think it's funny. While I wouldn't say it out loud, the bully got just what he deserved. I know that sounds terrible, but at least my son and the other children won't be shoved or bullied anymore.

When I was a kid there was that one bully in my class who constantly teased me. One day I lost it while he was standing right behind me next to the blackboard. I turned around and grabbed him. I got him by the throat. I pushed him against the blackboard and just looked at him for a couple of seconds. He was terrified. He never ever teased me after that. HRHR

I have not had to go there, but I understand your frustration. My neighbor had the same problem with her school aged son, she had to go to the school administrators for help. It is a terrible that the parents of these kids are not helping. But, If I were in your situation I would have done the same thing, it is not your fault that the mother could not handle her child.

scare crap bully

i was bullied a lot in third grade. but i dealt with them, but then they tired to bully my little brother who was in first grade. they took him far away(back of the school where we were not allowed) and taught him bad words and hit him too. oh, they were SO sorry when i found them. they called me a b**** so i knocked em' down. they knew their place after that. they never went near my brother again. no one hurts MY brother >.< -.-

ye when i was at school (i was about 14) i was very shy, smart and a target for 1 in particular bully, he made my life hell for ages, i was walking out of the school gates once and he approached me and started to push me in front of everyone i was so humiliated so i turned round, not realising my own strength and punched him and broke his nose, i was expelled for fighting in school and the bully moved schools after that, and needless to say i didn't get picked on anymore.

but remember people violence isn't the answer lol

xx :)

There was this kid that used to torture my younger brother everyday at school, this really pi$$ed me off. Only one day he did out of school and i happened to be with him. I didn't injure him only his pride, shouted a littled and the boy apologised to me and my brother (the boy was 11). He never did it again, strange that is real strange

send him a message, kick the **** out of him, get him to pay attention, take a switchblade out, and make him think you'll end his "good life", he'll cry and beg for forgiveness, like all bullies eventually do, and than he'll feel fearful around the one he used to pick on