Can someone please explain why everything bad happened to me while being a Christian........ Please read?

Agnostic - One who holds the theory that God is unknown or unknowable

Atheist - A person for whom the idea of god is senseless. Not to be confused with a person who hates (and necessarily believes in the existence of) god.

I'm sorry that you've had bad things happen to you. You did not go into detail about what happened, nor did you explain why you felt the way you do. From what I've read though, it sounds like you are upset with God for the things that did or did not happen and because of your current feelings, you have decided to walk away from God.

I want to share with you a story entitled - My Child Let Go

As children bring their broken toys with tears for us to mend,

I brought my broken dreams to God because He is my friend.

But then instead of leaving Him in peace to work alone, I hung around and tried to help with ways that were my own. At last, I snatched them back again and cried, "How can you be so slow?" "My child," He said, "What could I do? You never did let go." ~ Author Unknown ~

You see, for all the worries of the world that we can carry, when we turn to God in prayer, we need to turn the problem or situation over to God completely. We need to understand that we are not going to get everything we ask for, and at the same time, some situations will occur not because God is ignoring us, but because there is a lesson for us to learn. If we learn these lessons, we will have faced adversity and become stronger for it. God does not cause bad things to happen and he does not ignore our prayers. God listens infinitely and how we choose to handle the situation terms whether we gave the problem over to Him completely; letting it go and moving forward, or, if we take back that problem in the form of worry and then become resentful and/or upset because God didn't do as we asked.

You are at an age where it is very normal to question, experiment with different beliefs and finding out who you are.

Without knowing the specifics of what has happened to you in the past, there is no way I can give you any particular answer for something. I can only generalize.

Also, to have conflict with a parent at your age is normal. The parent does not want to give their child that "learn to fly" option and wants to protect them forever. At the same time, the teen is rebelling and trying to fit into an adult world while being caught at an awkward age of not being a child or an adult.

I'm sorry that there is screaming. Perhaps your mother just doesn't understand what you are trying to relate to her and she is at an infinite point of frustration. While there is no excuse for screaming, perhaps this is the only reaction she knows to try and get you to hear her as well. Maybe if you and your mother make an agreement to talk with each other, and if one or both of you are feeling like you can't talk calmly with each other at that time, agree to not drop the subject but instead just take a break until both sides are calmer.

My oldest daughter who is now 17 went through the same exploration that you are now going through. I allowed her to search and feel things out, and at the same time, was there to help guide her when she had questions or needed a different view of some perspective. She, like you chose to be an agnostic for a while with similar complaints that bad things kept happening to her while she was a "Christian".

Now, at age 17, she is very active as a youth lay leader and has decided that she kept taking back her problems that she would turn to God with. Once she decided that she would learn how to truly let go of that problem or situation, and turn it over, she found she was not worried anymore, feeling hurt or having bad things happen to her. Instead, her life has become more positive than when she was going through her exploration of who she was and what she believed.

When she was younger and in a "fight" mode - casting blame to God or others for thing "bad" things that happened to her, I did a lot of screaming too trying to get her to listen. When we realized we could talk and take breaks, my skills of listening to her greatly improved and so did hers. We were able to agree to disagree on certain issues but because we learned to communicate with each other and put blame where blame was due - and her learning how to be responsible for her own actions, etc., life improved. That is why I gave you those suggestions for you and your mom.

I hope that this has helped you some, and I hope that you can find what it is that you are seeking. Never be afraid to ask questions and never be afraid to speak your heart and mind.

I hope you have a wonderful day!

Some of the answerers are right to an extent where you hormones are concerned but not right when it comes to "God is testing you" and " the devil will do his worst" ect.

You let go of the stigmas of Christianity where as "you are going to burn in hell if you do not do things this way or by our dogma" or " Your not praying right or your not being a "good enough" Christian" crap. Some Christian denominations (I did not generalize here people) use the fear of the "evil" one or eternal damnation as a way to make you stay a Christian or to stay with their church or denomination of faith. You just are one of those few that did not see it as a way to believe. You also have to remember that the "eternal damnation" and the "devil" are all concepts incurred by the early Church back when it was just starting. It was fear that made people convert at first. Not the true "loving God" message that was the true message in the beginning. You are probably more of a Christian than many of those around you that sees the big picture rather than the way others use the faith as a way of controling others. Everything is Karmic when it comes to religion or beliefs of our life pertaining to the deity or deities. There is an old saying in the business industry that should also be observed in life "Never talk about politics or religion with a potential client". Unless you know for certain they see things as you do it is best to never discuss it. You are 16 and live under your parents roof. Even though I am an eclectic Pagan myself, I hold fast to most of the moral up bringings of certain faiths such as "Honor thy mother and father" this is taught in all Abrahamic and Pagan religions. "Do unto others as you will have them do unto you" which this statement should be both ways with parent and child. Respect humanity for the sake of humanity - a Buddhist and Hindu law. Respect Mother earth and all that is of her - Paganistic and Wiccan.

Just let things go. The worst you can do is try to change another persons mind because you will never be able to. They will have to do that on their own so their is really no reason to argue. Agree to disagree and continue a peaceful path and you will then be the teacher and not the student. We are all teachers by our actions not by what we say.

Blessed be and Peace to you.

My mom usually screams too and while I still love her, I know that she and I can't live together.

She is a Christian, I am a Christian struggling with my relationship with God.

I don't know if this is going to help but I am gonna try anyway. When the hard times come on you, think about what Christ went through, he went through a lot more than anyone on this earth has. So who are we to be bitter?

Jesus was made fun of, mocked, spit at, abused, HE felt neglected by his father (God) when he was dying on the cross

"Father, Father, why has thou forsaken me?"

God has never stopped loving you, no matter what you did or what you will do , he will never stop loving you.

Like the other posters said, this is a spiritual battle and Satan got what he wanted so yeah things are going great, that's one christian out of the way.

Remember when you're sad, God is sad, When you're crying, he's right up there crying with you.

I know it's easier said than done but don't think that God isn't there for you, he sees everything and will always be there waiting when or if you are willing to come back to HIM

All I can really tell you because I am not very good at this is God loves you, and no matter what ,NO MATTER WHAT. HE always will.

I am honestly sorry about how your mom treats you, Everyone will stand before God on judgement day and will be held accountable for everything in their life.

I hope this helps at least a little bit, if not I am sorry, I tried my best.

I have some things myself that I have to work out with God, I honestly hope you and God get on good terms again one day.

God bless you.

16 years old and not sure if you want to be a christian. Chances are you are not even a christian as we speak. What makes you think you are? Church attendance? Family membership in some church?

The only way to become a christian is to be born again just as Jesus told Nicodemus he must be. Being born again in the spirit is accepting the price paid for our sins on calvary's cross. Christ overcame that cross, death and the grave and purchased our freedom and salvation, once and for all.

What individuals have to do is accept the fact that they are a sinner, turn to Jesus in faith to deliver you from the penalty of your sin and to turn away from that sin like the plague.

Now, if you haven't done any of that then you were never a christian to begin with.

Here is a good deal. The bible is hard to read anyway, but once saved, individuals are indwelt by God's Holy Spirit and part of His mission is to enliven the scriptures. It is like having a teacher on hand always to explain what it is you are reading in the bible.

Most theologians aren't saved and when they read the bible their learning is as foolishness to God because they cannot know the ways of God because they are spiritually discerned.

Anyway, don't give up a such a young age when you probably haven't truly walked any distance yet as a Christian.

God bless.

Think of health and injury. How would you quantify how much flesh is missing when you call something a wound? If this analogy being satisfactory requires that good an evil be measurable, then the words have no meaning at all, and your question disappears. This is the larger issue here - The argument from evil requires that we know what would appear evil to an omniscient being. I am an atheist, but not because of the argument from evil - it fails. edit: Even if we agree that behavior in public schools is worse (evidence would be needed), saying it's because of the removal of mandatory prayer is a form of the fallacy "asserting the consequent". I could just as easily say all the trouble started with the addition of "under God" to the Pledge of Allegiance, since that was before mandatory prayer was removed. It's another poor argument.

They are called trials because you will be faced with much persecution in the coming years. If you couldnt handle what was happening to you then you could not happen what will happen in the future. It is the way we grow. God doesnt just give us everything we want if so wed all go to be with Him. Patience isnt just given to us we have trials to help us grow. I know that one from experience. I could write a novel on it perhaps I will haha. But seriously you have to look at a few things honestly. Were you in the scripture everyday? Did you take time out daily to pray? Those two things are the most important after you have repented from your sins and accepted Christ into your heart. That is how we communicate with Him and Him with us. Were you sincerly sorry after sinning? Did you feel bad after doing it? Did you ask for forgiveness after realizing it? These are just a few questions to ask yourself of rather you were a Christian or you had a relationship with Him. Those are two huge differences. Many people say they didnt get Christianity or religion. And I found that to be true. I played that game for almost 9 years before I humbled myself before the Lord. I face challenges throughout life we all do. When we are followiing the Lord Satan throws more temptations at us. He hates us and doesnt want us following Christ. Go back with the Lord you will not be sorry. God Bless and Peace out.........

I'm sorry that so many bad things have happened to you. Although it's difficult to comment without knowing more details, I'd like you to consider this fact: The years when bad things were happening were the same years that you were especially young and vulnerable. Now that you're a little older, you're able to look out for yourself a little better. So in that sense, it may have nothing to do with religion.

It may also be true that the peace you're finally experiencing is God's answer to your prayers. He has finally changed your circumstances, as you asked him to do, but instead of being grateful, you've turned away from him.

I'm sorry your mom screams at you. She means well, even though she's handling it badly. Perhaps you could have a discussion with her when she's being calm. Tell her that when she screams at you about religion, it has the effect of pushing you away. Ask her to be patient with you while you work things out in your own mind.

It's not about everything going right but how you handle the things that don't go right.

I have had a similar experience to yours except mine wsas the other way round.

I never had a fairly good job, nice car, good friends etc. and life was a breeze. But I wasn't happy. Something was missing. I somehow ended up on a camping ground with a bunch of guys whom I now call my brothers. That weekend the Lord found me and I accepted him as my saviour. That very same weekend I felt excitement like I've newver experienced before. Since then I have been in an accident (car totalled), lost my job(company closed down) and I had to move in with my brother.

I believe that before I found Jesus Satan had no issue with me. I was doing exactly what he needed me to do, but when I got baptised I suddenly became a threat. So he tries to get you back. And through all of this I realised that God was actually allowing these things to happen to me. Why?

Because firstly it's so easy to believe when everything is going according to plan. But as soon as things don't go your way you will start looking for something else to blame!

Secondly, If you keep the faith and you follow Christ through this path you will only come out stronger on the other side.

Today, My brother and I are running our own bussiness and things are going great! Best of all I now live on a farm and I get to see the beauty of God's creation everyday.

So really it's a win-win situation. Satan wastes his time and effort to turn you away from God but if your focus remains on the Lord you are actually strenghtened by it!

I pray that you will realise this. God will never put you in a situation which you cannot get out of. There is this great song that says: "In his name, our inabilities become a door for his provision" I learnt this about three weeks ago and it is so true.

You know I had the same problems growing up, The only explanation i have is that God was busy. Which makes me in your place now to where I don't believe in him anymore. So the only explanation I have is that God isn't real. As for dealing with parents who are Christian, I no longer talk to my step mother (a raging Methodist herself) or my dad for the life they gave me. But as for you, I guess you can just tell your mom that you don't want religion to get in the way of your relationship. I'm sorry if these answers don't help, but its the best answer I have. I'll think about it and reply again.

Deep, deep question.

1) According to the Bible, if you stopped being a Christian, you were never one to start with.

2) The Bible says to count the cost. The "health, wealth, and prosperity" gospel is a load of rubbish. God promises that Christians will have trials, persecution, and troubles.

3) These troubles are partly intended to weed out the fake Chrisitans. . . like. . . well, you.

4) I would like to talk to your Mom. She doesn't seem, to exibit the proper Christian virtues. . .

5) Prayer is not a magic make-a-wish to get what you want done. It is a part of worship, and, yes, God always answers, but sometimes He answers "no."

6) Why does nothing bad happen now? Well, its possible that your trouble had something to do mwith persecution (I don't know) or, actually could have been demonic, and they went on to more important matters when they found out that your Christianity was fake.

You are 16, have you considered your perception of these things have been altered by your hormonal state of puberty?

I know my daughter (she's 16) went through hell from about 12-15 years. Now, at 16 her hormones are a bit more under control, she's a bit more mature and she doesn't obsess quite so much.

As to your mom, going back to you're only 16 - she's your mother, you live in her home, you need to respect her. When you are 18 and paying your own bills, you earn the right to argue with her.