Question for all the brides out there...?

Other peoples OPINIONS! Although they are welcomed....to a certain point...... those people sometimes get mad or pushy with their suggestions! I even had to break out the bridezilla speech once or two (translation...too many times to count) and tell them I AM THE BRIDE NOT THEM! I mean is it bad that I had a certain way I would want something done? I mean, they just KNOW that I should do things their way!

Oh and! People inviting people I dont even KNOW! After they know Im having a hard enough time getting MY guests a seat they have the nerve to invite relatives I've NEVER met or friends of theirs that just want to come- who, P.S. dont even know me!! EVEN HAD THOSE PEOPLE CALL MY CELL PERSONALLY!!!!!!!!!!!!!! AAAAHHHH!!!!!!

Other than that....nothing....Im having a blast!

The most frustrating parts for me so far are finding a dress that fits me and doesn't look gross! (I have a bigger chest)

Getting my fiance to help plan he gets distracted easy and just doesn't really care about all the little details like a girl does.

And last but definately not least dealing with the wonderful future in laws who want to plan the wedding and make me do everything that they want, invite who they want and put everyone in the wedding but not pay for the wedding!!

Drop the stress plan early then go get a massage!

You probably won't have the same issues I have had- mine was mostly red tape with my church because of my previous marriage.

Then I was going to use Amarylys as the centerpieces, well they have all bloomed. The flower only lasts for about a week. I get married at the end of the month. So we move to plan B. Other than that.

I am keep it really simple- so there is not a lot of stress.

Decisions. Most things really are not the end of the world, so you start making decisions. Then you get attached to those thoughts and then thing don't go as well and you get frustrated but you never really cared all that much in the beginning... big endless loop.

And people asking how things are going and giving un-welcomed advice. ie what things would be "tacky" lol

We are only about a month into planning, but so far the most frustrating part is:

I originally didn't want to have a wedding. I actually wanted to elope, but my fiance wanted a wedding because "you only get one chance." I can see his point, so I agreed.

Well, now that we are actually planning things, it's ME doing all the planning. I can't even get him to finalize his side of the guest list- and he hasn't spoken to all of his groomsmen. :-( I love him- but he is a procrastinator.. hehe. We can always laugh about stuff, at least.

The most frustrating part so far has been trying to figure out a date :) We love all seasons and really wanted to marry on 10-10-10, but since he proposed sooner than I expected I really want to marry next year. It seems so simple to pick a date, but I'm having trouble with it. I have so many themes I like and each one would fit better with different times of year. However, it's nice to have choices I suppose :)

Mostly, everything has been going wonderfully. My mother has been incredibly helpful, and not at all pushy I love my in-lawsto-be, and everything seems to be falling into place nicely.

My big problem right now is my bridesmaids dresses. I prefer a more modest look, and I'm having a hard time finding a dress that isn't strapless, spaghetti strap or halter while still looking pretty and non frumpy!

Everone elses opinions were the most frustrating to me. I got to the point where I just started telling people, "you will have to wait and see". When they would ask me questions about my planning. Especially family. Even though they were not assisting in paying for it, they thought that the way they wanted things is how it should be done. I eventually got to the point where I told people that things were already done, just to keep them from throwing their unwanted two cents in.

Actually the only frustrating thing I have run into is getting the bridesmaid dresses... I live in Maine...the bridesmaids live in Maine, Virginia and Arizona... so it wasn't like we could all get together and go get the dresses... We picked one dress... but by the time the girls got to order, the dress wasn't available in that color anymore... so we found another one... but then the company called me and said I'm sorry that dress is not available in one of the sizes you need... So I finally told the lady okay this is the dress color and these are the sizes we need, what do you have for dresses in that color and size... we finally got one and the girls all got their dresses this week and say they fit perfect.

Guest list... Has gotten a bit out of control. We both have big families to begin with, and are both very involved at our churches. We didn't really have a sit down conversation about it, and its a little frustrating. I'm telling my guests no kids (otherwise we'd have to pay for about 30 kids, since a few people at my church are trying to repopulate the earth) but he is allowing some kids from his church. He's inviting people from college that he hasn't seen for years, but I'm not inviting my co-workers- one of whom gave us his frequent flyer miles to book our trip to Hawaii.

So far, we are estimating 430 guests at the wedding. I think I'm gonna faint.