Pregnant, depressed, and feeling of rejection!?

aw sweetie. im sure your hormones arent even making this any easier. how hard were his parents on him? he might be stressed from them. that dosent make it right for him to blurt something hurtful out to you but im sure you know how it is to be under stress. dont freak out about the marriage. your already about to have a huge life change and you just need to focus on your baby. theres no right or wrong way to feel. how you feel is how you feel so dont question if your feelings are valid. talk to your boyfriend about how what he said is makin you feel but let him know your not pressuring him into marriage. you just want him to know WHY your feeling depressed.

good luck with telling your parents :)

properly, that's how i seem at issues. you need to no longer have had that abortion. he's not the single which's going to could desire to bypass to the docs each some weeks, eating for 2 human beings, having contractions, your water breaking, dropping your mucus plug, and giving delivery..you're. So in all honesty, that's as much as the mummy if she needs the child, that's no longer basically the dad's selection. So in case you rather need this infant, then you certainly ought to have it. And has some distance as your boyfriend, If he's not guy adequate to shield the child, then so be it. i could make him pay each penny for newborn help. And so some distance as being on my own, do no longer difficulty because of the fact there are a great type of different great adult men available that don't ideas being with a woman that has a newborn. don't be depressed, that's no longer sturdy for the child. And in case you do come to a call to have this infant, seem at it in a sturdy way, a minimum of the child will love you, and additionally you are going to adore the child. that's all you will ever desire. So do no longer even difficulty hun, each little thing would be ok. sturdy success! :)

Wow, too bad he is acting like a jerk. But, have you considered that he is in shock just like you are? I would give him a little time and space to figure things out. After all, you can't really force him to do anything, other than take him to court for child support later.

As for you and the baby, you need to concentrate on taking care of yourself and figure out, worst case scenario, you can take care of this little person on your own. DO NOT plan to rely on your boyfriend, he has already shown that he may not be in this for the long haul. Try to become more independant. Try like heck to figure out a way to finish college, even if it means cutting back to part time while you work. Maybe find a job where you can take your baby with you, like at a day care.

Whatever happens, you are now responsible for another little life that has no idea that it is here by accident, you worry about taking care of you two and if your b-friend decides he can step up, then you can add him in to the equation.

Good luck to you!

You don't say how old you are......but I'm assuminng you are young.

You are both on an emotional rollercoaster....Remember that this pregnancy will affect the BOTH of you for the rest of your lives........ he will be equally as scared and freaked out as you are, so I would give him the benefit of the doubt and take what he is taking with a grain of salt at present.

Having a baby is not reason enough to get married....in that regard he is correct...... and you wouldn't want that to be the case anyway, as you'd always wonder whether he felt obliged to marry you, or really loved and CHOSE you.....

Give him time.....see how your relationship goes over the next few months/years....you have enough to worry about at present...... how you both cope with a new baby thrown into the mix will also help you establish where you really sit with one another, and down the track you'll be better able to assess what future you have together. Regardless, you are linked forever because of the baby..... but hopefully things will work out for the best. Give him time....he's just freaking out and feels under pressure to behave and just needs to feel that he is making is own choices rather than being bullied into it by anyone (including parents).

Good luck.....just concentrate on a safe arrival for baby for the time being, and the rest will sort itself out.

I think he's worried that you're thinking that's the next logical step, and that maybe your parents will try to force it on the two of you. Just let him know that you really appreciate him being there for you while you're pregnant, and let him know that this doesn't change your relationship, you're still boyfriend and girlfriend like normal. This should calm down his fight or flight reaction, because it sounds like he's freaked out at the idea of getting tied down, which it totally normal. Let him know that you aren't going to pressure him into doing anything that he doesn't want to do, but making comments like that while you're pregnant and dealing with mood swings and raging hormones really hurts your feelings. Hopefully you two will work things out and quit fighting, ESPECIALLY while you're pregnant, as it can have adverse effects on the wellbeing of your baby.

Give it time and see what happens. Now that you are pregnant try to attend to parenting and birthing classes together. I got married and a month later I was pregnant but it was not planned. We were arguing so much all the time that we just wanted to split after being marry for 3 weeks. But we attended this parenting class that was more a relationship class and woow it made a different in our relationship. They encourage young couple to marry if they are not. They even marry you if you are ready. Is all free. Is a pregnancy center. The web site is http://www.brandoncpc.com/

Send them an e mail with the nearest center in your home town. They help you with babies diapers for up to a year, classes, couseling, ect.

He is probably feeling overwhelmed right now. Not that it's an excuse to take it out on you... I don't think he meant it as in he'd never want to marry you, but rather "let's not rush into marriage bc you're pregnant".

It's a lot to take in. Take it one day at a time. You'll be very emotional for the next several months :) There's nothing wrong with you for feeling that way!

i don't think that your boyfriend means to hurt you when he says he doesnt want to marry you i think its a defense mechanism maybe since you havent mentioned wanting to marry him he's telling you that you wont make it and ya'll aren't getting married any time soon also i was 16 when i got pregnant with my daughter and i was so scared of telling my mom that i didnt tell her until i was like 6 months along (i didnt show at all) she freaked out a little bit but after a few weeks she got over it and now loves my daughter everything will work out with everyone in your life its not wrong for you to feel like you do and hey you dont need a man to raise your baby

If you fought all the time before a baby isn't going to cure that hon. It's naive to think that a baby changes a relationship for the better, maybe for awhile but babies actually strain relationships down the road. If he doesn't want to get married he doesn't. That doesn't mean he won't be a good father and he is staying by your side - so perhaps it was just his fear talking. I would say he's afraid but he's also trying to be realistic - if you were on a rocky road before you need to address the causes of that and not expect that the baby is going to fix things. It's not fair to any of the three of you.

Hopefully, (for your sake) he will stop acting like an insensitive prick and step up to the plate... otherwise, just make him sleep in the couch until he does. :)

*addition*: I'm not saying she should marry him, but that he does need to be supportive towards her and doesn't need to be talking to her that way. If my b/f did, he would get a lot worse than the couch... He helped make that baby, and he needs to do his part now and be the man that you need. If not, he needs to leave you alone so you won't be distracted and upset by his idot self.