Inviting people to weddings....?

"Sorry, we unfortunately have budget we have to stick to."

The end. She's out of line for giving you crap about this. Tell your cousin to stick to her guns NOW, or else people will walk all over her.

Good luck

My first question - is the girlfriend being invited to the wedding, even as an "and guest" invite to the 2nd cousin?

If the answer is yes, then your answer to the complaint about the shower is "we do not know her, she did not make the shower invite list, but 2nd cousin will be getting an "and guest" invite to the wedding".

When I was just the girlfriend, I was not invited to two different wedding showers in my fiance's family - - and I've met the bride - - and my fiance got an "and guest" invite for the weddings.

If the girl is not invited to the wedding, tell them "there is no space to include her in the wedding and it would be rude to have invited her to the shower".

I'm going to be on the rude side here for sake of knowing who was out of line...

I'd say this, "Unfortunately you are forgetting who's wedding this is. Unless you are going to pay for your sons girlfriend to partake in my festivities I suggest you leave this alone. I have planned and paid for a certain amount of guest and quite frankly she wasn't in my budget. Now I have better things to attend to then to worry about who wasn't privy enough to be invited."

A bit on the harsh but sometimes the only way to get through.

Tell her to say that she is sorry and didn't want to be rude and invite someone she didn't know to her bridal shower, considering they never met before.

Sounds like your great aunt needs an etiquette lesson.

tell her or anyone that asks that it's a space issue, i think this seems to work best. when we told a few people that it was a budget issue then they wanted to pay for the meal ect. i think it's usually a combo of both. you could also explain that it's a small wedding and that youneed to stick to your numbers and there had to be a cut off. it's your day, stick to your choices.

Do your daughter and something of the kinfolk be in contact with one yet another? If no longer, then no, they do no longer would desire to ask her. Sorry, i understand this isn't what you prefer to take heed to, yet i'm assuming she is over 21, and would not stay with you, so there isn't any expectation for her to be lined with you, for any reason. that's no longer because of fact she lives out of city. it particularly is probable because of fact she would not sustain with something of the kinfolk.

Explain to the complainer that you thought it would be inappropriate to invite people who don't actually know the bride.

In my experience great aunts like to complain. Tell your cousin to ignore. People get all sorts of notions about weddings - it is the bride and groom's day. They are NOT going to please everyone so it is important for them just to please themselves.

Say nothing to your great aunt she is annoyed anyway and is probably looking for attention.

Sorry, but there are a limited # we can invite and we thought of close family and friends first.

yeah say that you are keeping the wedding small to keep the budget small. Leave it at that.