Help with 8 year old boy?

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My son is 8 and in the 2nd grade. We have always had issues with him at school but this last quarter things have finally turned around and he is making good grades and doing a lot better. He goes to a councelor for ADHD although we have opted not to medicate him and this seems to be working along with other measures. he isn't in trouble at school all the time anymore but at the same time a lot of the teachers at the school have given up on him as a problem child. The problem we have now is there is another kid in his class that keeps taking his lunch. When he tells the cafeteria monitor they ignore him and side with the other boy which is new to the school. My son comes home upset and hungery to the point it is a meal instead of afterschool snack. I wanted to go to the school and say something but when I said so my son got really upset and started crying asking me not to because he didnt want to the kid mad at him. How can I handle this and not hurt my son?

Update:

we live in a small community and changing schools is not an option unless we want to go back to the Catholic school and he absolutely hated that to the point we had to drag him there. I don't want to make him feel like he cant tell me things but I hate knowing he is going most of the day hungry to.

angie · Accepted Answer

Well first you have to be absolutely sure of what is going on, 
My son went through something simular,  but he was giving the kid his lunch because the kid was bugging him for it.  He didn't want him mad at him because it was a friend.  

So I started making his lunch for him I put in enough of every thing for the two kids to share.   

How I found out what was going on, was I volunteered at the school as lunch help for a few days watched what was happening.   I don't know if that is an option for you or not. But it wont hurt to ask.  All you do is walk around the lunch room helping kids open their milk or any other thing that may be packaged.  

If the kid is actually focefully taking his lunch, you will see it happening with your own eyes You can seperate the boys and you can request the two boys not be allowed to sit next to each other in the future.

Dee · Answer

If you need to protect your child, you need to protect your child.  Who knows better, the parent or the child?  So why are you allowing your son to decide how to handle the situation?  You are thinking in his best interest that at age 8, he cannot understand.  Your 8 year old is dealing with a bully.  No kid that is bullied ever wants to tell.  

Teach him ways to talk to the bully and how to handle the situation on his own.  It would also be a good idea to go to the school and let them know of your concern.  If you can, spend some time at the school.  It may be worth it taking a day off from work. Your son has to have his lunch and should not be bullied around - bottom line.

vanessa83 · Answer

if he's telling the cafeteria monitor the kids going to know he's telling him anyway.

i would talk to the school, explain to your son that the teachers aren't allowed to say who told on another kid...also if this bully got mad at him then the teachers should be doing something to prevent that from happening.

have you thuoght of switching his school?

bry · Answer

the only thing u can do is say something...i got picked on i school..it leads to worse problems down the line...fix it..tell the kids parents. and if it gets worse ask a lawyer what you can do.. i school should be fixing it..your son should not have to deal with bullies..if it was my kid id get a bigger kid to beat that bully up..haha but thats just me

geezuskreyest · Answer

Well, boys are boys, and sometimes you just have to let him learn to stick up for themselves.  But you should at least speak to the Principal, Asst. Principal or his teacher.

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