Quite the predicament...Ladies' advice welcomed!?

I think you are a very wise man with a good heart. It sounds like she's the one that finds it easier to love 'em and leave 'em. You would be the one to get more attached and hurt possibly. Rightfully so. If she truly just wants sex, let her get it from someone else and keep your friendship intact. But, this might be her way of saying she'd like to test the waters with you to see if something more should develop. I think you are doing the right thing by proceeding/not proceeding with caution.

10. Mad Tea Party (gentle on mom, unless getting dizzy bothers her) 9. Splash Mountain (very scary drop, scared my husband) 8. Soarin' (gentle, unless she is afraid of heights...even then tell a cast member to place on the bottom row and you would be barely off the ground) 7. Space Mountain (not advised to ride, caused my father to stop riding rides at all amusement parks...the dark is what is so bad about it...makes it seem worse than it is) 6. Test Track (fun!!!! not scary) 5. Kali River Rapids (hmm...this is not so scary; just really really wet) 4. Mission: SPACE (ride the tame version) 3. Rock n' Roller Coaster(a big nope...i think it loops or feels like it) 2. Expidition Everest (doesn't go upside down, but has steep drops and goes backwards) 1. Twilight Tower of Terror ( many random drops, your bottom will come up off the seat, probably the scariest of all)

Yikes. Touchy situation. Just tell her you respect her too much to do that. Tell her you don't just sleep with anyone to have sex, it has to mean something special. She will probably give you the "awww, how sweet" which is a good thing! Tell her it would be different if you two were dating. That is a perfect opportunity for her to jump in and ask about it, IF she is interested in a relationship. She may really like you but is afraid of rejection. Once you two have that FWB there is no taking it back. Plus, emotions and feelings start to surface on someone's part causing problems if the other one doesn't feel the same. Better to stay friends.

If I were in your shoes, I would neither accept the offer, nor turn it down until AFTER I had spoken with her about it...

Address your concerns, and alow her to address any she may have.

It sounds like many of your concerns are unfounded from the way you describe the relationship as it has been, but nevertheless they are your concerns and you have every right to have them. Maybe discussing them with her will put some of them to rest.

Maybe this could be the start of a more serious long-term relationship for you both. Perhaps one of you will find someone else and this will all end. Perhaps you will both go your seperae ways. Who knows? But unless you talk to her about it, you never will...

yeah she'll be insulted. If she's really a spontaneous free-spirit, tell her you'd love to date her, but you really seriously like her and are worried you'll want more than friends with benefits, thet you'll want a serious committed relationship because you want kids within 5 years. that should freak her out enough without insulting her. Its a risk though, you may end up married.

Well if you are emotionally attacted and she just wants sex, you will get hurt by this. I thought it would work out and I ended up hurting a guy who I just wanted friendship from by sleeping with him, I didn't know he had those other feelings for me. So maybe she doesn't know you want more than sex.

You need to tell her that you don't just want sex, tell her you really care about her and wouldn't be satisfied by just being friends with benefits or whatever you're calling it. Tell her you really like her and you want her to be your girlfriend, and tell her it's either that or going back to just being friends.

Either, she will be interested and say yes to going out with you and being in a relationship, or you will get a no and you two can get back to being friends without the extras.

You owe it to her and yourself to be honest about these emotional feelings or they will get in the way and you will get hurt.

KUDO's to you,,, yeah ,,, If she wants to be friends thass' great, If she wants friends with benefits, it can be an emotional rollercoaster , and I'd take bets it'll crash before you get around the next curve... If she is that permisscuis as to want both from you,, how do you know she's not doin ' the same with other friends ?? If she is ,,do YOU want , what they've got, or for that matter what they've already given to her!?!? Just tell her you have more respect for her ,& yourself ,and if that frienship meant anything it will stay just as that ,a long lasting FRIENSHIP.. .................BENEFITS, LOL!

once your relationship takes the next step, there is no going back. i would agree to saying no, it will be akward for a little while, but the friendship will be okay. if you were to hook up, and things went bad, you would lose a great friend. better safe than sorry. then maybe once you are both older, if the feelings are still there, it would be okay to go that extra step.

I think you just have to be honest as you are and hope maybe she will see you for whom you are if she cares back it will work out but if she doesn't it may just not work.

I guess i would also tell you is it worth puting your friendship on the line?

That would be the best thing to do, tell her no because of your sacred bond. Emphasize how much you appreciate your friendship and don;t want to ruin it.