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is this a bad thing?
Alright, I'm 16 and a junior (turning senior this June). My bf is 18 graduating this June and weve been together for 3yrs+ now. weve been "involved" for bout the same and the only "protection" we use is withdrawing before ejaculation, (i grew up with him and hes always been part of my life and the only one ive ever loved) but everytime i get my period i get upset, like ive let myself down. ive always wanted a family early in life and i would love to have a baby anytime i can get one. everyone tells me that i should wait till im out of school at least and i agree, cuz idk how i could ever tell my parents, and my bfs parents would kick him out of the house (they r very religious) but some part of me hates it everytime im not pregnant. is this a bad thing? my friends say that it will get me into trouble because ill end up with a baby i dont want, but i do want one...should i wait, get one now, or just let what happens happen?
1. my bf wants a family ASAP as well (and has a job and will be getting an even better paying one after graduation)
2. we've looked @ houses an such that we can afford in out town
5 Answers
- Anonymous1 decade agoFavorite Answer
i would let time go by and wait till your at least around 18. My cousins gf had a baby when she was 16 and she regretted it. It wasn't because she had a baby it was because she wasn't ready for one, she loves her daughter dearly but wishes that she had her a little later. Also when ya have a baby then you will have to give up the things you should enjoy while you still can and after all if what you say about your boyfriends parents is true then i think you should definitely wait until he has a house and has a job, that way he can support you and your baby
- 1 decade ago
Just letting it happen by not proactively using protection doesn't make it fate or destiny, if that's what you are hoping to attribute it to. Have you discussed your 'disappointment' with your bf? Starting a family is a huge decision that will affect both of your lives forever, and he deserves to have a say. By not planning this with him, you run the risk of him resenting you, and even the child, for the rest of your lives and having nothing to do with you. At such a young age, you might be surprised at your bf's choice between you and his family if it really came down to it. For instance, you can't support him if he gets kicked out, you can't finance his education, etc. and all of a sudden he will have no emotional/financial support from his family, and he will have the added responsibility of taking care of you, without even a HS diploma, and a child, and the expectations that he will turn into a man overnight. I don't know of any teenagers having children that are 'playing house' after even a year. So the dream you are having that everything will work out and that you'll live happily ever after is not reality. Bringing a child into the world is a huge responsibility that deserves to be planned and not an accident.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
your fare too young to have a baby and for safty use a condom your schools should be teaching you that or is it a religous school? enjoy your life more before settling down and also i doubt your bf wants a baby. id run for it if my gf wanted me to get her pregnant at 16 THINK ABOUT IT!!!!!
- 1 decade ago
At your age you have a lot of life left. Children need safety and security, but that doesn't appear to be the picture you've painted here.
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- Anonymous1 decade ago
honestly, i would wait and finish school then try for a baby. if you get a baby and are unhappy, then you may have wished that you finished school so you could go out and work. good luck though.
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