What can I do about this with husband?

What your husband is doing to you is called "psychological invalidation". The short definition of invalidation is "to reject, ignore, mock, tease, judge, or diminish someone's feelings. It is an attempt to control how they feel and for how long they feel it". I went through the same thing with my ex BF and he managed to destroy my self esteem and even made me doubt my sanity. It took me a very long time to find the courage to make him leave and an even longer time to clearly see what he was able to do to me. It has been over a year that he's been gone and I still feel horrified when I realize what I let this guy do to me. The information on the website below (http://eqi.org/invalid.htm) was a real eye opener. Reading through it was the first time I was able to put a finger on exactly what was happening to me. And more importantly it clearly states that is invalidation is a form of psychological abuse.

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I feel bad for you, and all you can do is sit him down... and put down the line. Tell him her is the line.. if you cross it, I am getting a room for the night.. we need to talk. If you end up staying at the motel that night, try again... and keep doing it until he realizes this is a big issue. He may be insecure about something himself... but make that line and tell him if he crosses it... ex: Don't use the words mental, you hear me out.. if you start putting this on me.. we are done.. you crossed the line and then pack a night bag... or whatever you choose to get the point across. There is no harm in it, don't raise your voice, it may take a few days, and if he asks why you keep doing what you do ex: going to the hotel for the night... let him know. Tell him you are both adults and you deserve to be treated like one and be communicated with because you are his wife and when something is bugging/wrong with you it better damn well be bugging/wrong with him too. Sorry if the whole hotel thing seems ridiculous... it works though;)

Leave him. Go to a hotel or to your mothers, or a friends, just leave. When he calls and asks what's wrong, tell him that you will NOT come back until he seeks counseling with you and learns not to say such rude comments about you. If he refuses, or things do not improve in three months, divorce him. He is supposed to treat you with love and respect. If he can't do that, then there is no point staying married to him.

I commend you for putting up with such insensitivity. Sounds like your husband has some guilt issues.. You need to get him out somewhere and talk to him. He eventually will tell you whats going on, cheating, lost his job, health issue., etc. There's something at work here but he's not coming out with it. If you can manage to stay calm I think you can find out what the heck his major malfunction is and help him get straightened out

I hope I am not true but have seen such a situation, He may be trying to get an easy divorce by proving your mental instability. Find out if he is not seeing someone else. Talk to him as to find out whats on his mind. Get a fair share. Get a life and live it too. God Bless You.

He is trying to knock your confidence and lower your self esteem. It's him that has the problem, suggest he goes and see's a counsellor and if your interested in making your marriage work, you go too. Good Luck

He's trying to blame the source of the problems on you, instead of recognizing and dealing with them. It will not get better unfortunately, until he acts like a man, and accepts responsibility for his actions...then deals with them. Good Luck!

I feel your pain. I was in a marriage similar to yours for 14 yrs. We had children. Do you have children with him? He sounds like a narcissist. I can tell you love him and you want to make things better. He can not love you because he doesn't love himself. He tries to hurt you to make himself feel better. He's sick and you will become sick and depressed if you don't seek help for yourself. I hope you don't have children that are witnessing his behavior. If you do, you can count on losing your children's respect for you if you don't seek professional help. God Bless you!

Convey him in clear words that you need to talk whenever he is in mood and have time.Then you can ask him why he behaves this way.Try to ask if he is facing any problem in his work place.Try to communicate with him when he is in right mood.It will really need patience.

It is verbal abuse, get out now, before the verbal turns out to be another kind of abuse.

He is no good for you, and you do not need this, my stepfather did this to my mom and she got out, before it totally ruined her life.

You are a wonderful human being and you do not need to be treated like that, get out, and get your life and your pride back.