Wedding shower gift vs. wedding gift...?

You never *have* to give a gift. It is commonly accepted that you would bring a gift to both, but should never be required. (It might be a little weird to show up to a shower empty-handed, though, since it's to "shower the couple with gifts.")

If you give a gift for the shower, you can choose to give a gift at the wedding, or just bring a nice card of congratulations. (You may choose to include money, but again, optional!)

I'll get a lot of thumbs down for saying that gifts are not required, but I think that if anyone is insulted that someone did not bring one, they need to reexamine their priorities with having a wedding!

A gift for the bridal shower is required. However, when receiving a wedding invitation, it is not carved in stone that anyone has to bring another, more formal gift; but, most people do. You are guests of the bride and groom and therefore are not expected to bring a gift to the wedding. Many people get this wrong and put registries in wedding invitations, this is a big breach of proper wedding etiquette. Registries go in shower invitations only. After having said this, the weddings I attend are usually relatives or very close friends and it is my personal wish to give a shower gift and a wedding gift. If you do not wish to buy two gifts that is entirely up to you.

I'm giving a gift from the registry for a shower gift and a gift that I chose on my own for the wedding gift. I spent more on the wedding gift than the shower gift.

Usually both gifts come from the registry unless there is a theme for the bridal shower. Typically more money is spent on the wedding gift.

Gifts for the wedding shower is usually a house gift, ie. toaster, coffee maker etc. Most department stores have a wedding registery for people to look over as it avoids duplicate gifts.

Wedding gifts are generally money gifts, but some give other gifts instead.

Yes, you give a gift for both. The one for the shower is a more modest one. Both are usually items for the home, not personal-type gifts.

A SHOWER gift is required if you attend, as you "shower" the bride and groom with gifts.

A WEDDING gift is not required. Give a gift if you wish.

If you are invited to both then you bring a gift to both. More money is spent on the wedding gift.

If youare invited to both you give a gift at both (presuming you can afford that) I say that the shower gift should be something for her (think massage, lingerie, bath products, etc) and the wedding gift should be for the house (think towels, sheets, etc).

If you can't afford to give at both, then I would make a choice of which is more important to you (usually the wedding) and then give them a nice note or card for the other.

yes you should give a gift for both. usually the shower you should get them someting off of their registry. and wedding you should give money