I hate daycare!?

I work at a daycare/preschool. At my work, in order to be the head of a class you need to be an actual teacher. I am, in the state of Illinois, a qualified Early Childhood teacher, an educator. In our four year old room we have many kids who don't nap. Kids do outgrow them. As for telling a parent about a problem, as a teacher it is hard because we do get parents who just say "ok" and don't care, but then sometimesthe parents who do care say "ok" too because, well what else can you say? As a daycare worker/teacher I understand that we are with the kids all day, but as a parent, I know that no one knows the kids better than their parents. At my work we have ways for the parents to communicate to each other and ask for advice, because, hey, we teachers don't have all the answers. Tell your child's daycare worker that you're simply exercising your right as a parent to seek help from others too. If your child's provider is offended then just tell her, you hear what she is saying, but you just want more perspectives in order to figure things out. If your provider doesn't understand or like this, then they need to take a lesson in kids/parenting. It's always best to have multiple views and ideas. It helps you both out and your child in the end. Good Luck!!!

Sounds to me like she is enjoying her "kids" taking a nap so she can have some free time during her job. I ran a daycare for 5 years and having a break during the day was a plus, but there is a time when a child doesn't need a nap. In Indiana we were required as licensed providers to have a "nap" time until the child is 5. (by the way I think that is waaaay too old and all of my kids were done with a nap at 2 1/2 or 3. I have four kids of my own.) If she is throwing this kind of fit over a nap then she probably is getting tired of doing her job and that's not a good environment for your child. I had a few employees like this and they didn't stay long after their attitude changed. Maybe you could bring a bag of books or coloring books that your child could do and suggest that instead of looking at it like a nap time she could sit him at the table or on the couch for a "quiet" time and she would still be abiding to the state guidelines. Also stress to your son that he is supposed to quietly keep himself occupied during the nap time with his own special bag of things to do. My own older kids - 6, 4, and 3 - all take a quiet time while the baby sleeps and it works just fine for me.

I definitely agree that she has over stepped her boundaries. You are his mother! If you want to go ask Ronald MC Donald for advice she is in no position to tell you any different. Yes, it is true she may stay with your son all day but that does not give her the right to talk down to you or tell you what is right/wrong normal or unnormal for your child. I think you need to either have a long talk with her about her position as a child care provider and NOT a second Mom or you should seek new care. Trusting someone with your most prized possesion is hard enough but than to try to control it is just plain wrong. When I had to seek daycare when I had to go back to work when my son was 6 weeks old (thank you Uncle Sam) I was pleased to find such wonderful care. Good Luck with your provider!

Jeez, I was a daycare teacher for 8 years and I would have been happy that you cared enough to ask around! That proves that you actually DO care and you aren't brushing off her concerns. She is a trained professional but that doesn't mean she has to be your ONLY support system when it comes to your kid. However, she is spending more time with him than anyone else so she's the best person to discuss issues with. I would make an effort to really discuss the problem with her though instead of just saying ok. That does kind of make it sound like "Ok, whatever lady, I don't care." Clearly that's not the case but you want her to know that and apparently she doesn't. Overall, I think you're being a caring, involved parent. =]

I am also a licensed daycare provider - and I don't know everything - if you can go research what I can do to get your chiild to quit biting - thank you from me. etc.... It is fine if you go ask other people questions. why your 4 yr old isn't taking naps? thats the age when they grow out of them - and they just don't need them - and they have a hard time falling asleep. so, I wouldnt take it to heart if she gets upset about it. Its really not a big deal - and she is making it into one. I say - ask whoever you want questions you may have about your child - go on yahoo and ask questions - the way I look at it is this: the more people you ask - the more suggestions you are going to get - where - you can take all those suggestions - and see what works for you!

so- ask her - ask another teacher - and ask yahoo answers! don't stick to only one person.

My sons preschool teacher is like that in a way but she's more silent about it. She freaked out on me and insisted that I take my son to the doctor about a runny nose because she didn't want the other kids to get a runny nose. In the winter all kids have a runny nose. So after paying a $20 copay and my doctor bascially laughing at me and my son still having a runny nose, the teacher was semi satisifed but still looks at dumb things. My son fell a long time ago and hurt his front tooth we immediately took him to the dentist and his tooth had a bruise that is healing but everyday she checks his tooth and continually asks him how he got it to make sure that his story is always the same. I know that teachers should be concerned but seriously. Sometime teachers take their job a little too seriously.

Time to find a new daycare. She has stepped WAY over the line.

WHo you seek for advice is of no concern to her unless your son is being harmed or harming others which doesn't sound like the case here.

My daughter stopped napping at 2.5 yrs old btw. but until she was 3.5 i would still make her have quiet time during her regular nap time. Sometimes she would actually nap and other times she would not. She is 9 and I still make her have quiet time during the summer break everyday but she never sleeps she just reads or watches tv nowadays.

She was definately offended and its not your problem. You have every right to talk to as many people as you can. School is the same way. They are either supportive and with you or against you. I would redirect her that she is being unprofessional, not worry about it (easier said than done) switch daycares, talk to the director or ignore her

Yeah, I agree ith your last statement. I remember when my son was in daycare. I definetly had some issues. At least you son doesn't have too much longer before kindergarten!

definatly find a new daycare for the summer then get your son in school next year