Feminizing Men?

And then you are going to piss and moan about how easy your imaginary wife has it, how she sits around watching Oprah and raising kids isn't that hard... blah blah blah

"Where is my hot meal while I was out lumberjackin' honey? I kilt a squirrel for you while I was huntin', and I don't smell nothin' but cabbage!"

I am guessing you are between the ages of 12 and 19.

Just some food for thought, although it is admirable that you would provide for you're family, (some men run out on theirs),

the flip side is that if you had a partner with her own capabilities, she could also provide for the family. It's a win-win situation. Just thinking of the possibility of the main breadwinner becoming hurt or unable to function.

If you're wife chooses to stay home and everyone is happy with that, all the more power to you. Btw, "power" can be represented in a myrid of ways. Nurturing, compassion, patience, and other defined as femine traits are also powerful.

Married couples have to do what works best for them. I agree with Rebel Man here that there are certain gender roles that just work. If it works for a particular couple, great!

Generation x and y are seeing a split in terms of how they view gender roles. Many are going with very traditional roles like their grandparents from the 50's and 60's. The others are getting away from gender roles completely and feminizing men a bit and de-feminizing women a bit. Neither of the two groups is better off than the other, it's just up to the individual to find out where they fit in and be happy with themselves.

*shrug* If that's what you want, and you find a woman who wants the same thing, then power to you. But I think it's a bad idea to try to put all men into the same box. My love is not a very macho guy... at all. He's slender, introspective, likes to write and read, he's not very physically tough or into sports... you get the idea. I didn't make him that way, he was like that when I met him, and I accepted him for who he is. I wish other people could give him the same respect that I do, but unfortunately a lot of people (men and women) do seem to still think that men should only be and act a certain way. I don't get why people can't just let others be themselves without judging them for it.

Hey if your wife wants to raise the kids an you work great. I hate that people think your closed minded for feeling the way you do. They are elitist an think they are better an more educated than you. An that your simple an just a dumb bumpkin in the hills. To have your wife stay at home an you work is still quite common, an nothing wrong with it. Just make sure you have long term disability if you ever did get hurt.

One time I remarked to everyone that I, a man, was volunteering as a cuddler for premature babies. One lady asked why didn't I go have a beer with the guys or something.

In the animated Tarzan movie, the ship is burning off the coast of Africa and the mother and baby are waiting in the boat below while the father is furiously trying to save as much stuff as he can on the burning boat. Can you imagine the father and baby sitting in the boat and the mother trying furiously to save as much stuff as possible on the burning boat?

While I believe that there are definitely gender roles that we cannot get away from, I also believe you cannot tell another person how to live their lives.

If you and your wife agree then go live your life. But really, you plan on teaching your daughter that it's not okay to be President one day because it's not a 'very Feminine role'?

Careers as "hunters, construction workers, lumber Jacks, working in a Mine covered in dirt" don't pay very well. Some of these 'careers' are seasonal - not a good sign either.

I predict you'll be needing that second income to make ends meet.

If you and your wife both agree on that lifestyle, then that's the way you should go. Personally I'd rather have a relationship with few gender roles, because what happens to that person's role if they get hurt or sick or something? Simple: it doesn't get done, or it gets done poorly.

Listen to RoVale.

I think it takes a REAL man for a man to not feel like he always has to "wear the pants in the relationship"....You and I see men in different lights- I didnt know that real men were only in manual labor jobs; thanks for shedding some light in my world haha. Well at least you want a woman on your level with the same high aspirations you sound like you have in life lol.