Why would a woman choose to marry/have sex with/date a guy whom was a gangmember?

I don't know.. I would not..

possible answers:

1) stupid

2) visions of excitement

3) drug abuse

4) mistaken thought that " I can change him..."

Low self esteem and Hollywood. Maybe a little savior complex thrown in for good measure. Some people, at some level, really believe they don't deserve any better. They see themselves as damaged goods and so seek out damaged goods.

Of course there is also the curse of Hollywood that glamorizes these people. I would have to say that far from being tough, they are week scared little boys and girls with guns. I have been in a few situations where people like this have tried to intimidate me. Some have even found the nerve to attack me. It's amazing how few they are. I have faced down multiple potential attackers more than once and rarely thrown a punch. They often don't know what to do when you are not afraid of them. I don't claim to fully understand them or those that are with them. I only understand the theory of forbidden fruit and bully's. I feel sorry for gangstas and molls alike. They both need help.

I think it's because they do not know better and the truth is that they probably grew up in that environment and are desensitized to it or simply dont think about it throughly before they get too involved and it is true what one of the people said on here tv and hollywood make it seem fun and cool, also if the gangmember is a drug dealer he probably provides spending money and most young girls or simply women with low or no morals do not stop and think about where that money is coming and how the drugs said person is selling is affecting the world not just the kid around the corner.

Sometimes your sterotypical 'gangmember' isn't a gangmember at home. What he does outside of the house does not affect me in any way. I am dating a 'gangmember' per se and I love that man with all my heart. Just because he got himself into that situation does not mean he doesn't deserve to be loved.

As cliche as it sounds too, it's a harder life than you think. It's not like he can just walk away from it. Sounds silly but the saying 'the only way to leave a gang is in a casket' is true. You can't always walk away from it once it's a part of your way of life.

Who is he outside of the house is different from the gentle, caring, nurturing man inside the home.

And Lady. . . I cannot believe you listed under additional details so called 'facts'. Do you personally know any 'gangmembers' or are you using the stereotype from media and movies? Because everything you said is unfair and untrue. Those are common missconceptions and it's a damn shame people still have the thought process that you have.

It is done for the same reason that women will choose as their mates, alcoholics, drug abusers, etc. Much of it has to do with the self-esteem of the woman in question ( most of them have low self esteems). I would also think that most of these men also spend a good amount of time in prison and would not be able to support a family.

The subject of your question is something that I have been wondering about for a long time...only because there are women who went to high school with me who always thought that they were the greatest, one is living with and has kids with a guy who has been in the joint for a long time for murder/manslaughter (stabbed someone who died from his injuries) and another who has children with a man who has been sitting in prison for the last five years, or ones that hook up with men who are child molesters or wife beaters. They will have children who will grow up believing that it is OK to be a criminal, and that the behaviour is acceptable to society.

I am with a man who has never been in trouble with the law ever!

The hottest women are drawn to the most violent crazy thugs. This just encourages them to bemore crazy. It is the nature of a woman to to be attracted to the strongest most courageous men, but inthis upside down bastard world of the back ghetto, women confuse violence and abuse for strength and

courage. A top reason why many boys join gangs is to get women.

It's called the disease of sex addiction. Sex addiction has the same denial of being an alcoholic. Sexual addiction is an illness or should I say disease. If this man or woman had another kind of disease would you judge them the same. Ilness comes in many forms. Mental illness is very serious. The problem is people hide their head in the sand. They don't read on mental illness enough or dont' believe that it exists .I feel compassion for them , they are ill of course. They live in their own hell. They know they are sick . Denial is like a cloud that covers reality of the mind. Hope this kind of answered your question. I'm not a doctor but I am a counselor. Not of sex but of addictions.

gracy

April.23.2008.

I think this happens because of greed for money and because of the way that some ppl are very selfish because i do agree that gang members and drug dealers are some of the worst ppl in society for you to even think of killing another human being in my eyes is just wrong

I defiantly think in some circumstances these people were not always like that and someone may have married them before they got into drugs ect. But know that they are married they are too afraid to leave the person because they might hurt them.

I can somewhat relate. My ex boyfriend was a hardcore drug dealer. But for some reason I just kept looking past that cause I liked him so much. And also it was kinda exciting. Its almost that " Bad boy image" I guess I was so drawn to. I knew that what he was doing was wrong.. and even though I hated being in that enviroment. I just liked being with him so much. I think that every girl is slightly attaracted to that " Bad Boy"

I have no idea. I have wondered that myself from time to time. I would NEVER date anyone like that and esp not marry them. I guess some women just love bad boys. But then they get hurt - beaten up or raped, etc. - and they want to whine. Go figure.

Sounds like you are quite passionate about this subject. Maybe you should find something to do with that passion, like public speaking or something.