I'm heartbroken about my 16 year old son?

I would suggest counseling for both he and his dad together. It's good his father is willing to pay for his help, too. But he also needs to go with him. Perhaps you can also; family counseling never hurt anyone. Only then will whatever is troubling him be uncovered.

He sounds like he may be angry, or hurt about what's happened to him in his life, and he has to find a way to cope with it. He needs to let his feelings out to someone who wants to listen.

Instead of military school, there may be other outlets for him to get out his frustration. Try and get him into clubs or sports he may like. Good luck with all this.

The music isn't something to fret approximately songs rather do no longer make human beings kill except they have been all waiting loopy first of all and if so something might desire to set off an episode. i'm 24 and used to take heed to 2pac this is the rapper that music is via and it by no potential did me any injury. I additionally do no longer think of it has lots to do with this female it could have knocked his self belief somewhat yet on the 2d your son is purely being a young person that would not make a number of his behaviour ok you'll be able to desire to get it interior the incredible proportions songs and weights would not advise he takes steroids, steroids are very costly. and end excusing and blaming his behaviour on others if he's doing incorrect he's conscious it. and you passing it off as this women fault or being violent as a results of fact he would not like jocks is you attempting to make your self experience extra valuable and in factor of actuality his behaviour would not make you a foul make certain or him a foul infant its teenage rebellion ion which you'll be able to desire to attempt and handbook him by yet can't provide up, preserving being concerned approximately your son and in a pair of years time your son will do what we've all carried out. i'm sorry mum i became a actual S**t as a young person.

The military school might be your best bet depending on how far gone into drugs and alcohol he is. Research some of your local school districts and see if they have any "alternative" schools. One opened in my town, and the guidance these kids get is unreal. I went to high school with the Principal at this school. We were talking about how many of these kids who didn't make it in public school, and were into trouble, turned their lives around. Maybe your son needs to see that there is other people like him out there, and it is not too late to take charge of his life. Good luck, and I'm sorry for your troubles.

Military school? You crazy?

I'm 16 and live in Europe, let's see:

i know people who drive without a license

i know people who drink at 13 +

i know people who smoke pot at 14 in fact one of my friends is that person

i think that by themselves, the listed calamities are, well - bad. But you did mention he was good in school? Grades in school don't say much about a persons character or how smart you are. Do you think he can take care of himself? Is he somewhat intellectual?

If yes then chill, he's 17 he smokes pot, role back to the 60's and you wouldn't have been so surprised. He drinks, um so? Who doesn't before they are 18 (21 in the states)?

Leave him alone don't fuss about it or you'll turn a good relationship bad.

Also please don't send him to military school. We're in the 21st century we're not un-civilized barbaric brutes that send our children to military school (at least most of us aren't)...

I'm very sorry to hear about your son. I know this is causing you lots of anguish. Try: www.child.net/toughlove.htm. The toll free number is: Tough-Love International 1-800-333-1069. The information is very helpful.

Every child needs their father to take an active role in their lives, but unfortunately lots of fathers don't see it that way. The results can be devastating for some children. You're doing right to keep seeking help for your son. Please don't give up. I honestly hope this can help you both. Please don't forget to pray for him.

Take it easy on yourself, thats why they're called teenagers, its a crazy age for them and they'll come around eventually and become mature responsible adults.

As you describe your kid I think he will turn out as an excellent successful man, he's got what differs a leader from a follower and he's definitely a leader.

meanwhile sending him to boot camp is the best, just trust me he'll grow out of this phase soon.

BOOT CAMP! If it was my kid, I would do it! My kids are too young yet but when that time comes..and if I have those problems..I would not drop a tear sending them to boot camp! I was a troubled teen, and I wish that someone had stepped in and saved me! Im ok now..but I would of done alot better! Do it! He might hate you now for it..but I promise you..he will thank you later!!!

i was in the same boat but its sounds to me yours is a bigger problem then mine. my sons were and still are doing pot i did everything to get them away it didn't work they are now of age and are not living at home. i think the boot camp might work for the mean time but will he have changed enough in there or go back to his ways once he is out. it also sounds to me that your x is not helping much by doing what he does , i wish i had more answers for you but its hard i went through the same thing i wish you well and i hope your son can come to his sences before its to late.

i think its a good idea to send him to military school

you and your son should go together to speak to a professional