If your wife/girlfriend had cancer and needed chemotherapy and radiation but would kill your baby?

Wrong. SHE has to choose her life or the foetus.

I am pretty sure SHE would choose her own life. After all, she could die before the baby is developed to a point where it could be born safely and survive. What's the point of probably killing the infant as well as herself?

And why is it anyone else's business but her own?

This was quite a famous case in the late 80's. Angela Carder's cancer from childhood returned while she was pregnant. The doctors didn't want to do chemo because they thought it would endanger the fetus. They performed a C-section without informed consent. (She mouthed "yes" while under anesthetic, but then got out of it and repeatedly said no; nonetheless, they shut her up.) Both she and the fetus were killed.

Wouldn't a better question be, if YOU were pregnant and had cancer and needed chemotherapy and radiation that would kill the baby, what would your choice be? Or don't you think both parents should make the decision together?

I don't know what my answer would have been. Thank God I never had to make the choice.

if the decision was left up to the mom then most cases the mom chooses the baby, but if the decision is not in her hands if the decision is in the hands of her loved one or the doctor then they would all pick the mother's life.

I don't wish this situation on anyone, if my loved one was in this position i would pick their life over the baby. I don't care how bad this sounds but u can always make another baby, and if somehow u couldn't then u could adopt. But if the life of your loved one is gone, then it is gone.

You could argue that you can find another partner and yes that is true, but you can't give that baby their biological mom back!

I don't know it's up to the individual, I would choose the life of the mom

I choose my wife. I choose her for my mate for life. That was one of the only two oaths I took in my life. If I loose the fetus and save her maybe we can have another pregnancy. If not we can always adopt.

Bill

What kind of life would the child have with out its mother, never to know her etc, personally I would choose the life of the mother. But morn the loss of a little human being.

I actually experience this situation. The mom refused chemo until the baby was born. The baby died shortly after birth. Then the mom died. Then the father died a year later. It was a horribly tragic situation. Save the life of the mother. I learned from this event, and it happened 30 years ago!

that would be a tough call, but the mom is the one who is already their,she would say save the baby but then would the father/husband say that? no, he would say save my wife/girlfriend. only God and those in this sad situation can know the answer.

Given the specifics you lay out, I would have to say that her vote would count more than mine, but I would vote to save the life that is, before the one that might be. Selfish? Maybe.

But again, if my hypothetical partner disagreed, I would try to change her mind, but still support her decision.

I would save the mom... i grew up without a mom an it was tough i wouldnt want tht for the child