What if you found an 8" purple jelly dildo in your wife's purse?

all she would need is 2 minutes alone with that thing. i AM sorry for the bad time you're going through.....23 years is a lot of time to throw away, it's not as easy as some may think.

Wife Loves Dildo

Well, apparently her bf is not doing the job either, hence the dildo.

I am sorry that you are going thru this. It must be so painful. If your wife wants to separate and loves someone else, why is she still living with you? I am confused. And you, as the man, know she is having sex with another man yet still allow her in your bed. WTF???

She is not going to leave you if you continue to be a pansy, and please don't be offended. Your head needs to rule the roost here hun. Do not allow yourself to be driven by your heart or you will end up more hurt. Rifling thru her belongings, while may be morally wrong, is not a crime if you have it slapped in your face every damn day. I myself would be checking every damn thing I could to get answers.

I am perplexed about the dildo. She has two men in her life yet needs a dildo? Are you sure she's not seeing a woman?

As for your question about finding time to use the thing...believe me, she could make a pitstop at a gas station rest room and find the time. How long does it really take to get off anyway...a few minutes??

I know you did not ask for advice, but I feel compelled to give you some anyway. Please stop sleeping in the same bed. First off, if you go to court, that is the first thing a lawyer is going to advise you to do. If you continue, it puts you in a very precarious situation (believe me I know...been there, done that...but I did not love my ex...it was by force, not by choice that I was in that bed). You are going to have to let go of some of these feelings you have for her. While I realize 23 years together is a long time, you are being hurt and you should honestly step back and re-evaluate this situation. She loves someone else and that's not going to change. I hope you start to listen to your head. Good luck!

You are violating her privacy which you have no right to do. It isn't any of your business. And you admit you are insecure and are being obsessive. So how is that helping you or your relationship out? If she wants a divorce and you people can't work through it, then that is a separate issue that has nothing to do with what you found while you were snooping through her personal things. If you were closer and had come across it innocently then I would say that you should just bring it up to her. Maybe you still can bring it up, but she's gonna know that you found it by going through her belongings.

And she needs to stop sleeping with some other guy while she's still married. What the H is wrong with people these days? All of this stuff is fundamental.

And as for your actual question, she could have found time to make use of it anywhere. It isn't like she set out to paint the Mona Lisa for crying out loud.

I am sorry your going through this in your life...While I can understand your checking her phone, it is morally wrong and makes you look micromanaging...Could she have planted the dildo in her purse to catch you checking up on her??? Just an idea...And if she truly is carting this dildo around for selfish moments...believe me, she will find time to use it...I know it sounds cold and crass, but my guess is she was feeling too boxed in by you and opted to dupe you one...But, now you are in a bit of a pickle because to find out, you have to also shed light on the fact you were poking through her things...I can understand why you did it...but what it got you was nothing but MORE questions, and the reality of finding fewer answers...ONLY she knows the truth about it...No one else does. Sorry, hope things get better for you...and I also hope you learned a lesson for the next relationship your involved in. But, I do wish you much better than what you have right now...Take care.

What? I guess you could make use of it anywhere. the question I would have is why does she need it when she has you AND some other man? I don't get it. I also hope this "day" trip for business is not involving air travel TSA will check out EVERYTHING in your purse, which could be really embarrassing I suppose.

Obviously she was lacking something....and it really doesn't have alot to do with you....I would suggest you seek professional help and get to a therapist to get your head clear...It is sometimes exciting to have a new meal now and then ....if you two didn't experiment then it is good that she is finally being herself but she should have come to you and had an adult clear and concise conversation first...You can't help what she does just what you are willing to allow to happen to yourself...Get out of the bed that is not a healthy thing.....you are better than this so do the right thing.....put a stop on all joint accounts.....some time apart might be the best right now.....

So your actual question is where would she find time to use it on a day trip on business? You do realise that she'd only need to set aside 5 to 10 minutes to use it? She could easily squeeze that into her schedule.

You know, I think it might be a bit healthier for you mentally if you stop obsessing over what she's doing and stop snooping through her stuff. You need to start moving on ... 3 months is long enough to play this game. One of you should if possible move out ... put your house on the market, divide up the proceeds and go and make a new life for yourself!

You indeed know little about women, hon, so rather than begin to type now, and end sometime in November, buy a book, sweetie. By THE sex therapist in the country today.... cheap any bookstore and so good it is in paperback. Her other books are good as well...

For Each Other, by Lonnie Barbach. Apparently many know of this book, except you, hon.

Obviously you've missed a few things.

She didn't go on a business trip. She had some one on one time with her dildo and her man.

By the way I started laughing out loud when I read the first line in your question it startled me.