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my Italian fiance and future ma in law?
Dont know what others think of this but it is now making me really uncomfortable. I am engaged to an Italian man living at home with his mamma, he has been married before but after the divorce went back to his mum as it was cheaper and convenient for him. We have known each other 18 months and got engaged a month ago. He has not told his mum that he is engaged or that we have set the wedding date for next year yet, he keeps telling me he needs to find the right time
everyone I know knows about my engagement and they are all happy for me, I have not even met his mother and she knows nothing about me or at least bits and pieces as he chooses to tell her. I dont think I am getting the full story back from him though as she is very demanding and controlling in other ways yet he says she says nothing about me or is not curious in anyway.
I am getting cold feet.
4 Answers
- martox45Lv 71 decade agoFavorite Answer
I'm Italian but I hardly understand why your fiance has not yet spoken with his mother about you. I guess he could have kept it secret while you were just dating, in order to avoid introducing her somebody that could have disappeared in a short time and in this way she could have suffered for the breaking of yr relation since you should know how tights are for Italians family's relations. To make you an example of our typical (Italian) way of thinking when my daughter (now she's happily married) and my son had start dating I've asked them not to introduce their partners to me and my wife till they were absolutely sure about the seriousness of their feelings. Me and my wife (as well as the majority of us Italians) are easily affectionating to persons and we wanted be out from their occasional partners.
Speak clearly to him asking for the reason of his behaving and I guess you'll have clearer ideas. In any case I don't think it's correct he's still keeping it secret even now that you're his fiance and if he can't find the way to tell his mother it means he's hiding you something else.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
your not getting cold feet Hun your getting COMMON SENSE, something is DEFINITELY up with this guy. To have not even have told his mom about you what the heck is up with that. And then to have not told his mom he is engaged you need to seriously run away from this relationship if she controls him this bad now she will not only HATE you for taking her baby away she may try to split you guys up. If he is that terrified of his mom to tell her about the woman he "loves" god only knows what she will do when he fills her in on other things.
- 1 decade ago
actually your not... it's only right for a couple to let the people they care about about something this important... he have introduced you to his mother long before the two of you got engaged...
they always say that in order to have a successful relationship, both partners should trust each other and be supportive to each other... you should talk to him... ask him how really feels about your relationship because a man who keeps something this important to his mother is hardly likely to be dishonest...
- 1 decade ago
Run, do not walk, away.
A man who will not tell his mother that he is engaged is afraid of her and will always be........as long as she is alive you will never be first in his life.