My friend is throwing my baby shower, but I want to have most of the input on the food.?

The *proper* thing is that the hostess of the shower plans and pays for the shower with little input from the recipient. It is a gift, after all, and most people do not demand what is given as a gift.

That being said, I think it is perfectly fine to make suggestions and if she is a good friend then she should consider them respectfully. But if you insist that it is done your way then you should throw your own shower (which, BTW, I don't recommend) or politely decline her offer to do so.

Firstly having the shower at your house is perfect. She will be comfortable there and I'm sure it'll be really special for her. Secondly If your friend is already 4 months pregnant then the chances of something happening are quite small so it iis not too early to have a shower. Finally there are many different games. You could try themes. I know one baby shower I went to had a little kid theme where everyone had to play kids games like "pass the parcel", "musical chairs", "pin the tale on the donkey" etc. it was good fun with silly prizes. Alternatively the more traditional way of doing it is everyone wraps the present in a towling nappy and puts a rhyme on it with clues as to what it is and who it is from. The lady of honour has to guess these or else she has to perform a skit or have a forfeit of sorts (terrible baby food etc). Hope this helps a little bit!

In my experience when someone throws you a shower its usually a gift. Which means they do it out of the kindness of there heart and you have no say. But why should you? Pregnant or not and having cravings or not. If those are the things you like. Then maybe buy enough for you. And then plan on something else for your guests. You really can not expect people who are bringing you baby shower gifts out of the kindness of there heart to eat what you want just cause your pregnant and craving it. Why not be grateful you have a friend who is willing to throw you a party. And put more trust in her ideas.

Two ways to look at this . . . . one you could be craving the food but like M Kerr L&D said, not many people may like those things. The other (and biggest thing) is that your friend is wanting to throw you a party. If you are concerned about etiquette they you should know that throwing your own shower (which is kind of what you are doing by being so bossy) is NOT proper.

well find out what she was planning to pay for food, and anything over that amount, either you need to cover or find someone else willing to cover it. i would just tell her that you feel very strongly about what kind of food you want. you appreciate all her help and you couldnt do the shower without her. she can always help you make the food? just make sure you point out all the things that you appreciate her doing. if i was her and my pregnant friend came to me and said "thank you so much for helping but if you dont mind i want to pick out the food" id say ok what would you like to have

First of all, I will say, the food you chose doesn't sound like you have really thought about anyone but yourself. And I thought pregnant people werent supposed to eat stuff like ceaser salad.

I am throwing my friend a baby shower, and she is being as simple as possible. she had all the input on the food as well as the flavor of her cake, and I am paying for everything, but with all the extravagant stuff you want, I would not expect my friend to pay for it.

Seems reasonable to have the food you want at your own shower, however, it IS a gift and it would not be very gracious to insist on something she wasn't planning on serving. Why don't you ask if you could do the food shopping with her and then buy the food you want yourself? You can tell her you'd like to be involved and that it would mean a lot to you...

If you like to cook, just tell her that you'd like to make some of the food. Don't control all of it, just pick what is most important to you. You are the guest of honor, not the person throwing the party.

The guest of honor normally doesn't pay for the food.

are you gonna be the only one eating or do you expect 30 people to like the skewers and dip? where is the variety?honestly you really do need your friends help unless your inviting peter rabbit and 29 of his friends

I don't know about you paying, but most women get a choice in what food they want at their shower.